Tips on approaching women. "UPDATE PG 6"

^ i was doing my retail gig in college and chatting up an older female (40s?) who was on business trip. was just messing around and asked her for her number and she just smiled. she was flattered but wasnt interested.

recently approached a girl and was chatting up. was talking about her work, i was in a rush that i only got her business card. you think it would be awkward to hit her up on her work number? not even sure if she's interested. planning to hit her up regardless, worst thing is a NO
 
i bagged a milf on a cruise last month. i didnt have to approach her at first... randomly sat next to her on a bus to the ship. she started up talkin real quick while i was thinkin bout saying something cuz she was a nice lookin milf. honestly i could tell from the way she was looking at me and her body language that she was feelin me, and i realized there was no Mr. with her so i knew i might have a chance. 2 days later i see her on top deck and i approach her we chat for a while. honestly from there it was easy we walkin around the ship talkin i lead her back to the room a nd wrapped it up. :smokin yes this was a humble brag

as for tips.. im not the smoothest dude you just gotta go for it and get a feel for what they thinkin and try to be interesting dont just have that typical convo chicks get approached and hear the sameee thing over and over be confident dont be afraid to say the right or wrong thing thats what really tightens you up and then you seem average just go in and keep trying cuz alot of the time its them not you
 
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 I've been reading some of the post in this forum because I have problems approaching woman and to me it seems kind of hard to approaching woman. I might as well just start online dating or getting use to being lonely for a very long time. 
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come on son
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Online dating is a good way to get practice. It's not that different from when people hookup via AOL/Yahoo chat rooms, Myspace,FB,Twitter etc even though people front like it is.
nah man **** that **** all that online ****.....only way to get used to approaching woman is to throw yourself to the wolves and try it

online dating is tailored for fat and ugly chicks not men. man up grow some balls and approach a damn female :smh:

you ever go out with ya boys?..make it fun..make it a game..make bets..see who can bag the hottest/most chicks for 20 bucks or something

i used to hate approaching chicks..and i still do. but when i was out with my boys man we'd make bets...have teams..make approaching girls fun..after a while it wont be a huge deal
I would like to think my way with women is A1, I get my fair share. However, there is one problem that I at the moment don't have a solution for...

Bagging a chick at the gym. What's the way of approaching at the gym?
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how to bag a chick in any situation: use your surroundings to your advantage. all you need is get your foot in the door.

shes at the gym ok so if you see her walking around tease her a lil with a smile like "oh thats all you gonna gonna put up today

lightweight" or "you really need to correct your form" something like that..if you do it correctly she'll smile and laugh and not think your

a creep and its easy sailing from there

shes next to you in line at starbucks...ask for her opinion (women love giving opinions) on what to get and then tease her about it like "mmm naah i dont think imma get that" or w/e then take it from there

women often have their guards up and its up to you to break it down and get her to feel comfortable and at ease with you within a short amount of time

this can be done with condfidence, body language, humor etc
 
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So much truth in this thread :smh:

A few years back, I also had that fear of approaching women. To get over said fear, you have to realize a few things:

1. The worst thing that can happen is that they say no.
2. If they do say no, then it's their loss.
3. Numbers game. More attempts usually leads to more successes. As someone else said, if you don't approach...then you already missed.
4. Women aren't goddesses, their breath smells bad in the morning, they do poop, they do fart. There's no reason for them to be ranked higher than you in your mind.

Of course, the things I just listed have been already put out in this thread. However when I went through those processes, I "lost" that fear.
 
There's always been a time when you were getting cooperation from the ladies at one point...

Its funny how SHOOK you can.be before and then, as SOON as you.land.a.joke.or get a smile, the swag gates just OPEN all the way up...

Think about it...
 
nah man **** that **** all that online ****.....only way to get used to approaching woman is to throw yourself to the wolves and try it

online dating is tailored for fat and ugly chicks not men. man up grow some balls and approach a damn female :smh:

you ever go out with ya boys?..make it fun..make it a game..make bets..see who can bag the hottest/most chicks for 20 bucks or something

i used to hate approaching chicks..and i still do. but when i was out with my boys man we'd make bets...have teams..make approaching girls fun..after a while it wont be a huge deal




how to bag a chick in any situation: use your surroundings to your advantage. all you need is get your foot in the door.

shes at the gym ok so if you see her walking around tease her a lil with a smile like "oh thats all you gonna gonna put up today
lightweight" or "you really need to correct your form" something like that..if you do it correctly she'll smile and laugh and not think your
a creep and its easy sailing from there

shes next to you in line at starbucks...ask for her opinion (women love giving opinions) on what to get and then tease her about it like "mmm naah i dont think imma get that" or w/e then take it from there

women often have their guards up and its up to you to break it down and get her to feel comfortable and at ease with you within a short amount of time

this can be done with condfidence, body language, humor etc

My G, salute.
 
so...what's the gameplan when they give up the digits but never call back. do they like being chased? or do girls just give their number just for the hell of it? have a hard time reading these females sometimes SMH
forever lonely
 
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 I've been reading some of the post in this forum because I have problems approaching woman and to me it seems kind of hard to approaching woman. I might as well just start online dating or getting use to being lonely for a very long time. :smh:
come on son :smh: :smh:


Online dating is a good way to get practice. It's not that different from when people hookup via AOL/Yahoo chat rooms, Myspace,FB,Twitter etc even though people front like it is.


nah man **** that **** all that online ****.....only way to get used to approaching woman is to throw yourself to the wolves and try it

online dating is tailored for fat and ugly chicks not men. man up grow some balls and approach a damn female :smh:

you ever go out with ya boys?..make it fun..make it a game..make bets..see who can bag the hottest/most chicks for 20 bucks or something

i used to hate approaching chicks..and i still do. but when i was out with my boys man we'd make bets...have teams..make approaching girls fun..after a while it wont be a huge deal



Approaching chicks solo > with a group. Is he gonna bring his boys on the first date too? Judging by his post there's a confidence issue so he probably doesn't have much experience in dating period. So getting a few chicks under his belt would help with his confidence while gaining experience. As with anything it's what you make it. In my experience it's like fishing in an aquarium. It's not mutually exclusive he can still try to get women in the wild.



so...what's the gameplan when they give up the digits but never call back. do they like being chased? or do girls just give their number just for the hell of it? have a hard time reading these females sometimes SMH
forever lonely

Keep it moving. It varies. They get hounded all day...some give up the number just to avoid confrontation others are just flakey or full of ****. It's best not trying to rationalize the irrational.
 
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Approaching chicks solo > with a group. Is he gonna bring his boys on the first date too?

I don't think he's walking up to girls with a pack wolves behind him...atleast I hope not.
He's just saying he probably has his boys nearby so they can see him pull numbers. They can also be lowkey motivation. No one wants to look like a chump around the homies.


so...what's the gameplan when they give up the digits but never call back. do they like being chased? or do girls just give their number just for the hell of it? have a hard time reading these females sometimes SMH
forever lonely

Girls like being chased. Keep it movin...Her loss.
 
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Approaching chicks solo > with a group. Is he gonna bring his boys on the first date too?

I don't think he's walking up to girls with a pack wolves behind him...atleast I hope not.
He's just saying he probably has his boys nearby so they can see him pull numbers. They can also be lowkey motivation. No one wants to look like a chump around the homies.

Excellent observation. And If getting his **** wet isn't enough motivation it's safe to say impressing his friends won't do the trick either.
 
UPDATE



Had a summer class, had my eyes on this cutie but we only tallked once about the test.

Fast forward to new semester.

I see her in the hallway and spark a convo on how she did in the class,little small talk we swap names. she's smiling the whole time.

come to find out we have class at the sametime now but diff classes we always randomly see each other going to and leaving our classes.

She always waves and smiles when she see me and have small talk.

How can I ask for the number before getting friendzoned?

What to do if she says she taken?
 
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^^ bro, just be straight forward in asking her out. its redundant on NT but, confidence is always key. make it known shes the girl and youre the man.

start with a cup of coffee or something small. getting friend-zoned depends on the convo. try not to make the convo a "bestfriend" or "comfort-pillow" talk.
 
so just flat out asking "Can i get your number?" is cool ?

No. Don't equate getting numbers to smashing. Many chicks will pull numbers off the top just for you to go away. Then they got you back on NT making those "flaking chicks unappreciation" threads.
 
No. Don't equate getting numbers to smashing. Many chicks will pull numbers off the top just for you to go away. Then they got you back on NT making those "flaking chicks unappreciation" threads.
im talking about should how should I ask for the girl number from my update?
 
Had a summer class, had my eyes on this cutie but we only tallked once about the test.



Fast forward to new semester.

I see her in the hallway and spark a convo on how she did in the class,little small talk we swap names. she's smiling the whole time.

come to find out we have class at the sametime now but diff classes we always randomly see each other going to and leaving our classes.

She always waves and smiles when she see me and have small talk.



How can I ask for the number before getting friendzoned?

What to do if she says she taken?

Truth be told, you should have gathered all that info in that convo in the hallway. The smiles were a green light. You just gotta go for it, even if it feels kinda out of place. 9 times out of 10, it isn't out of place in thier eyes.
 
Hardest part for me is seeing a random woman in the grocery store, bookstore, coffee shop and thinking of the first line :smh:

Once I get the convo going I'm ok (not a pimp, but not a bum either). Its not fear, its literally I cannot think of an ice breaker.
 
Hardest part for me is seeing a random woman in the grocery store, bookstore, coffee shop and thinking of the first line :smh:

Once I get the convo going I'm ok (not a pimp, but not a bum either). Its not fear, its literally I cannot think of an ice breaker.

This is a problem for me too. No problems approaching at the bar/club because I can just go and introduce myself and the intent is known.

Another issue is that I live in a family oriented suburb so I'm rarely seeing chicks I would holla at in those situations anyway.

I need to fix this problem before I move to downtown LA next year
 
OP next time you see her just ask her out to lunch or coffee the next day or so thennnnn get the digits. And call or text to confirm the day of.
 
Talk to her after the class, look at your watch saying you have to go, and ask her number so you can see eachother sometime.
 
anyone care to explain the art of dominating women?
or what it means to be agressive
I always felt that to dominate ment to control them in some form or fashion
 
anyone care to explain the art of dominating women?
or what it means to be agressive
I always felt that to dominate ment to control them in some form or fashion


No need to dominant them with aggression, unless you are in the bedroom. Otherwise just be assertive and firm. A weak indecisive male who withers and has no spine is a bad look.
 
im talking about should how should I ask for the girl number from my update?

dnt just ask for the number straight up. when you engage in small talk, towards the end of the small convo,

suggest "you miss having class together" and ask if she wants to go grab a cup of coffee(wait for her response). then ask for the number. i usually just hand them my

phone and tell them to type it in
 
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