Why can't a guy show his emotions?

yesitsthatdude · Jul 6, 2014

I been going through it. My life has no balance. I thought I have friends but I have nobody that cares besides my family. I attempted to make plans with "friends" for the weekend since my family went out of town, all the guys were like I'm down (two weeks ago) 1, went mia, 2 went to work, 1 went out with his girl, 3 said they were with family, 1 got his car broken into (understand why he couldn't make it). But its like every time I am asked to go out with them I am always down and always come through.

For this 4th, I bought food to bbq drink and all. Nobody came. only two actually texted me back the one that got his car broken into, and one that had family over (who is supposed to be my best friend, just got engaged). Its like he doesn't even care, about my feelings. He asked who was over, He offered me a bottle of Henny he bought, and he doesn't even drink. I told him no I'm just going to go smash this girl, since nobody came through for me.

Lately I've been feeling so lonely, and depressed. I just want to cry some times. How do I deal with it? By meeting a girl from Tinder/POF/Okc some times Instagram and smashing. Since my friends are never there or don't make any effort to hang out, that's all I have and end up doing. I just want some real friends but I'm 26 its hard to meet real friends. All the people in my office are married, and older.

mike honcho · Jul 6, 2014

Pepper thy angus OP

RIP sleazyy · Jul 6, 2014

I would have come OP.

flyny · Jul 6, 2014

Damn pa, just keep ya head up. Everything will fall into place. Stay positive, god

am1x90xnike · Jul 6, 2014

You put on your big boy pants and solve the problem.

I seriously don't see the point in crying, or 'showing emotions' it doesn't solve the problem.

You lonely? Go meet people, they are out there. Bars, clubs, church, concerts, charities, community events...etc. go some place, keep going there and similar places, someone will talk to you eventually.

canifly34 · Jul 6, 2014

am1x90xnike said:
You put on your big boy pants and solve the problem.

I seriously don't see the point in crying, or 'showing emotions' it doesn't solve the problem.

You lonely? Go meet people, they are out there. Bars, clubs, church, concerts, charities, community events...etc. go some place, keep going there and similar places, someone will talk to you eventually.

This. Not to be insensitive but there's many worse things to cry over than this

clyde the glide · Jul 6, 2014

can't stand it when people always gotta ask who is there or who is going. if it sounds fun or is something u want to do just go and find out.

Platinum State · Jul 6, 2014

At the end of the day we all gotta take care and worry about ourselves. Know that no one outside your family truly can care about you. Everyone is looking out for #1
Its a bleak way of thinking but its true

treystylezpopz · Jul 6, 2014

Sounds like you have to much so called friends....

I smh @ dudes who feel like they need to run in a pack to have fun or feel important.

I'm 25 and I have 1 male friend. A lot of associates and people I could hang with but I choose not to. I'm not too fond of people in general. Lol.

Im highly admired by everyone, but I don't care to be up in anyone's face and I damn sure don't want them in mine.

Like the dudes I play ball with. They invite me to chill with them and although I do on occasion. I rarely do so. They go out of their way to do things for me and I appreciate it, but I'm not with that buddy buddy mess.

I do want to join a motorcycle club but I know I'd get tired of the company and quit prematurely. Lol

I love being Indie. Hell if I'm with more than 1 person in the mall shopping I feel awkward as hell.smh

Maybe 1 day I'll allow it to change but until then I'm all good.

iverson3 · Jul 6, 2014

TreyStylezPopz said:
Sounds like you have to much so called friends....

I smh @ dudes who feel like they need to run in a pack to have fun or feel important.

I'm 25 and I have 1 male friend. A lot of associates and people I could hang with but I choose not to. I'm not too fond of people in general. Lol.

Im highly admired by everyone, but I don't care to be up in anyone's face and I damn sure don't want them in mine.

Like the dudes I play ball with. They invite me to chill with them and although I do on occasion. I rarely do so. They go out of their way to do things for me and I appreciate it, but I'm not with that buddy buddy mess.

I do want to join a motorcycle club but I know I'd get tired of the company and quit prematurely. Lol

I love being Indie. Hell if I'm with more than 1 person in the mall shopping I feel awkward as hell.smh

Maybe 1 day I'll allow it to change but until then I'm all good.

THIS!! Listen to this man!

lamekilla · Jul 6, 2014

Op your boys didn't come through, so you went and smashed a chick

Why are you sad?

aalisupreme · Jul 6, 2014

A man can show emotions, but he should never show emotions like a female or a child.

To be overcome by emotion makes you look a myriad of ways, weak, insane, etc.

The types of qualities a successful man doesn't show.

So if you want to be a yambless loser, who works at a crappy job and has a crappy life,

be an emotional wreck.

If that sounds bad to you, control your emotions.

Get better friends bruh, everyone is replaceable.

currensy · Jul 6, 2014

You'll be ight OP. Maybe you should buy a dog/cat, srs. You could also try and find some new hobbies/clubs around town if you have the time.

nazdrowie · Jul 6, 2014

i can't remember the last time i felt any emotions

aNYone · Jul 6, 2014

NazDrowie said:
i can't remember the last time i felt any emotions

treystylezpopz · Jul 6, 2014

You gotta be happy and love yourself 100% before anyone else will.

That same day you planned should of been for YOUR excitement. You saw yourself needing, Tom, ****, and Harry to be there for you to be happy. When in reality that was ONLY YOUR perception of happiness and a good time.

Stop trying to please everyone else. You'll only set yourself up for things like this.

When I do something I do it for ME. If I invite someone else its so they can join me in MY fun. I don't care if I'm sitting in my man cave smoking kush, sipping cognac and watching a movie, IM happy and that's all that matters. If you wanna come chill cool, if not. My party is gonna still be jump in we there your there or not. It was only an invite. I ain't doing this **** to please YOU.lol

Oh and can I get that bottle of Henny you didn't want? Srs.

andretti · Jul 6, 2014

Moms gave me the car for the night yesterday so I decided to drive outside of the city
I was gona hit my "friends" up but I remember they never hit up or flake so I didn't see the point
Bumpin my favorite music with nobody there to care what I was listening to ,even drag raced a semi :lol:

and goin anywhere I wanted was pretty dope

Op go enjoy yourself solo you never know what might happen

kevlar shrimp · Jul 6, 2014

@TreyStylezPopz said what I was gonna type

Thanks for saving me the time

dabottom305 · Jul 6, 2014

currensy said:
You'll be ight OP. Maybe you should buy a dog/cat, srs. You could also try and find some new hobbies/clubs around town if you have the time.

Dog. Take it to a dog park a few times a week. You'll meet people.

Also, why not try to build something with one of those randoms you're smashing? It ain't always gonna be bros before h_.

AZwildcats · Jul 6, 2014

Spent my 4th of July at work and when I came home all my friends were done eating. Spent my night with a cold root beer and some hippie store pizza. Good times :pimp:

cobra kai · Jul 6, 2014

The idea that there's a limit on the emotions you can show is stupid, sexist, and some cave man type ****.

Op, you wanna cry, then let them tears flow, a good cry aint gonna hurt nobody. Cats be out here too hard to cry, **** that.
"I know that showing emotions don't ever mean I'm a *****."

I have 3 friends that I consider brothers, we came through undergrad together and are tighter than any group of friends I know.
You just need to find real friends, Op. Too many homeboys and people you're cool with that you're tryna make bros.

wayniac211 · Jul 6, 2014

Nothing to cry about. You're single, no kids and no attachments. Explore my friend. Start regional, then statewide, nationwide then worldwide. The world is yours.

mangudai954 · Jul 6, 2014

It can be a bit difficult to meet friends in your mid to late 20s especially if you're not in college or around people your age at work. Take this time to work on yourself mentally, spiritually, and physically. Try some new hobbies, travel to area you've never been and try new restaraunts. It'll all come together in the end for you OP :pimp:

guzzy · Jul 6, 2014

am1x90xnike said:
I seriously don't see the point in crying, or 'showing emotions' it doesn't solve the problem.

Crying is a great stress reliever. Instantly helps you. Thats the only point. Bottling it up is isn't good.

I encourage men to cry often.

clyde the glide said:
can't stand it when people always gotta ask who is there or who is going. if it sounds fun or is something u want to do just go and find out.

I only ask this if its a random get together. Nobody has time for a wack event.

TreyStylezPopz said:
When I do something I do it for ME. If I invite someone else its so they can join me in MY fun. I don't care if I'm sitting in my man cave smoking kush, sipping cognac and watching a movie, IM happy and that's all that matters. If you wanna come chill cool, if not. My party is gonna still be jump in we there your there or not. It was only an invite. I ain't doing this **** to please YOU.lol

Listen to this OPEE. Prioritize yourself first, you're numero uno.

I feel you though OPEE, you make plans & everyone flakes, has me like "got damb".

People arent always gonna be there & you have to learn to not let

that ish drag you down.

as for the emotions bit, men can show emotions, its just the when & where.

yesitsthatdude · Jul 6, 2014

I went to the dog park yesterday, nothing but grandmas are at the ones in my area. i go 2-3 times a week. I also go hiking by myself once a week.

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