Would you have an issue with your wife keeping/hyphenating her last name

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sooperhooper

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I swear it's not that big of a deal to me, but I understand that it's 'tradition'. I'm not in this situation or anything, but I have a female friend that is adamant about hyphenating hers if she got married. As silly as it sounds, it started a heated debate on her fb lol. Dudes were in there saying a man is weak if he lets his wife keep her last name :lol: i didn't get involved, i was just onlooking.

With so many woman 'wanting things to be equal', I think that this will happen more often.

The older i get, the less i care about the traditional stuff, like getting down on one knee, wedding, ridiculously expensive ring, living together etc.

If a couple wants to live in separate homes, not change names, no ring, no wedding, just a wedding certificate from the court and thinks that'll make them happy, more power to them.

I heard someone talking about a wedding that was 20k :x

I lowkey think the American wedding system is designed for failure in order to boost the economy with expenses such as paying for a wedding/ring/divorce etc.
 
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Where I'm from, women keep there last names after marriage. Also the kids take their dads last names, no hyphens.

I plan on doing the same
 
There isn't a problem with a women wanting to keep/hyphenated her name; doing away with "tradition". But if she wants to ascribe to this ideology she cannot only do away with tradition when it is to her benefit or when she feels like it she also has to be willing to if it comes up do away with the big *** ring expensive wedding having a man get down on bended knee etc.

One thing I personally can't bend on is the last name of my child in a married or unmarried relationship. I would want my child with my last name.
 
To me, doesn't do much. It doesn't make the bond stronger, it doesn't prevent infidelity. (same with a ring)

It's a little too old fashioned to be actually.
Another thing, do we even know the origins or our last names? I'm African American and this name was probably given to my ancestors by a slave master. Why should I have pride attached to it?

That's a good point aNYone. She doesn't want to be traditional in one sense, but still wants the dude to be traditional :lol:

Also, it's wild to me when women pick and choose when they want equality, or when they want to keep a double standard because it benefits them.

Ask most women about cutting grass, changing the oil, doing any handy work, and they'll be quick to say 'oh that's a man's job', but if a man dares to utter the words 'that's a woman's job' all hell breaks loose and he's a misogynist.
 
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sooperhooper said:
To me, doesn't do much. It doesn't make the bond stronger, it doesn't prevent infidelity. (same with a ring)

It's a little too old fashioned to be actually.
Another thing, do we even know the origins or our last names? I'm African American and this name was probably given to my ancestors by a slave master. Why should I have pride attached to it?
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What direction u going in w/ this thread, bruh? :lol:
 
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It would look weird hyphenated. She better off just keeping her own last name if she likes it that much. Kids will have my last name though.
 
sooperhooper said:
To me, doesn't do much. It doesn't make the bond stronger, it doesn't prevent infidelity. (same with a ring)

It's a little too old fashioned to be actually.
Another thing, do we even know the origins or our last names? I'm African American and this name was probably given to my ancestors by a slave master. Why should I have pride attached to it?

That's a good point aNYone. She doesn't want to be traditional in one sense, but still wants the dude to be traditional :lol:

Also, it's wild to me when women pick and choose when they want equality, or when they want to keep a double standard because it benefits them.

Ask most women about cutting grass, changing the oil, doing any handy work, and they'll be quick to say 'oh that's a man's job', but if a man dares to utter the words 'that's a woman's job' all hell breaks loose and he's a misogynist.
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So much this
 
Funny yall bring this up, my girl was just asking me about this 2 days ago.

I guess I'll be the first to say I wouldn't have an "issue" with it as much as I'd be disappointed.
 
As long as my kids got my last name idc. It's 2016, traditional people need to realize **** ain't the same as 1916. But then again I'm one of the people that think a wedding shouldn't be more than 10k.
 
I wouldn't have any trouble with my wife keeping her last name. FKK the paperwork!! Imagine having to change your name on S.S, and anything else for that matter...pssshhh
 
It was something important to me. If we are getting married, you are taking my last name. My wife was fine with that.
 
sooperhooper said:
I swear it's not that big of a deal to me, but I understand that it's 'tradition'. I'm not in this situation or anything, but I have a female friend that is adamant about hyphenating hers if she got married. As silly as it sounds, it started a heated debate on her fb lol. Dudes were in there saying a man is weak if he lets his wife keep her last name :lol: i didn't get involved, i was just onlooking.

With so many woman 'wanting things to be equal', I think that this will happen more often.

The older i get, the less i care about the traditional stuff, like getting down on one knee, wedding, ridiculously expensive ring, living together etc.

If a couple wants to live in separate homes, not change names, no ring, no wedding, just a wedding certificate from the court and thinks that'll make them happy, more power to them.

I heard someone talking about a wedding that was 20k :x

I lowkey think the American wedding system is designed for failure in order to boost the economy with expenses such as paying for a wedding/ring/divorce etc.
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You gotta remember, she might act the same way as you, like not caring about that stuff. But this minor little thing would have a large impact on her. It's the little things. Other than that, yeah the rest of the stuff that requires large sums of money being dumped in one single evening is pointless.
 
My girl's last name is already hyphenated.

Would be awesome is she hyphenated my last name too.

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The ones that confuse me are the people hyphenating their married name that is already the same. I've seen Chavez-Chavez before
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our son was born before we got married and his name was hyphenated. we were married about a year later and my wife changed her name as well as my son's name both to my last name. she did this all on her own without discussion. i would not try make her do anything she didn't want to do but i was proud that she did that for us.
 
JJs07 said:
@ksteezy has his wife's last name. No biggie. It's 2016 and we progressive outchea.
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Quite possibly the best first-post I've seen.

Regarding the topic, I wasn't even cool with wifey putting her maiden name in parenthesis on Facebook. Can't be looking weak out here.
 
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Stuntman Mike said:
our son was born before we got married and his name was hyphenated. we were married about a year later and my wife changed her name as well as my son's name both to my last name. she did this all on her own without discussion. i would not try make her do anything she didn't want to do but i was proud that she did that for us.
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Who chose to hyphenated your childs name
 
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