Living With Less. A Lot Less. vol. i know this is NIKEtalk, but insightful read

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I enjoyed reading this and feel that my mindset is gradually moving towards the same direction.

Less is more. And less is happier. :smokin

What are your guys' thoughts?


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http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/10/o...with-less-a-lot-less.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0

Living With Less. A Lot Less.

Maxwell Holyoke-Hirsch
By GRAHAM HILL
Published: March 9, 2013


I LIVE in a 420-square-foot studio. I sleep in a bed that folds down from the wall. I have six dress shirts. I have 10 shallow bowls that I use for salads and main dishes. When people come over for dinner, I pull out my extendable dining room table. I don’t have a single CD or DVD and I have 10 percent of the books I once did.

I have come a long way from the life I had in the late ’90s, when, flush with cash from an Internet start-up sale, I had a giant house crammed with stuff — electronics and cars and appliances and gadgets.

Somehow this stuff ended up running my life, or a lot of it; the things I consumed ended up consuming me. My circumstances are unusual (not everyone gets an Internet windfall before turning 30), but my relationship with material things isn’t.

We live in a world of surfeit stuff, of big-box stores and 24-hour online shopping opportunities. Members of every socioeconomic bracket can and do deluge themselves with products.

There isn’t any indication that any of these things makes anyone any happier; in fact it seems the reverse may be true.

For me, it took 15 years, a great love and a lot of travel to get rid of all the inessential things I had collected and live a bigger, better, richer life with less.

It started in 1998 in Seattle, when my partner and I sold our Internet consultancy company, Sitewerks, for more money than I thought I’d earn in a lifetime.

To celebrate, I bought a four-story, 3,600-square-foot, turn-of-the-century house in Seattle’s happening Capitol Hill neighborhood and, in a frenzy of consumption, bought a brand-new sectional couch (my first ever), a pair of $300 sunglasses, a ton of gadgets, like an Audible.com MobilePlayer (one of the first portable digital music players) and an audiophile-worthy five-disc CD player. And, of course, a black turbocharged Volvo. With a remote starter!

I was working hard for Sitewerks’ new parent company, Bowne, and didn’t have the time to finish getting everything I needed for my house. So I hired a guy named Seven, who said he had been Courtney Love’s assistant, to be my personal shopper. He went to furniture, appliance and electronics stores and took Polaroids of things he thought I might like to fill the house; I’d shuffle through the pictures and proceed on a virtual shopping spree.

My success and the things it bought quickly changed from novel to normal. Soon I was numb to it all. The new Nokia phone didn’t excite me or satisfy me. It didn’t take long before I started to wonder why my theoretically upgraded life didn’t feel any better and why I felt more anxious than before.

My life was unnecessarily complicated. There were lawns to mow, gutters to clear, floors to vacuum, roommates to manage (it seemed nuts to have such a big, empty house), a car to insure, wash, refuel, repair and register and tech to set up and keep working. To top it all off, I had to keep Seven busy. And really, a personal shopper? Who had I become? My house and my things were my new employers for a job I had never applied for.

It got worse. Soon after we sold our company, I moved east to work in Bowne’s office in New York, where I rented a 1,900-square-foot SoHo loft that befit my station as a tech entrepreneur. The new pad needed furniture, housewares, electronics, etc. — which took more time and energy to manage.

AND because the place was so big, I felt obliged to get roommates — who required more time, more energy, to manage. I still had the Seattle house, so I found myself worrying about two homes. When I decided to stay in New York, it cost a fortune and took months of cross-country trips — and big headaches — to close on the Seattle house and get rid of the all of the things inside.

I’m lucky, obviously; not everyone gets a windfall from a tech start-up sale. But I’m not the only one whose life is cluttered with excess belongings.

In a study published last year titled “Life at Home in the Twenty-First Century,” researchers at U.C.L.A. observed 32 middle-class Los Angeles families and found that all of the mothers’ stress hormones spiked during the time they spent dealing with their belongings. Seventy-five percent of the families involved in the study couldn’t park their cars in their garages because they were too jammed with things.

Our fondness for stuff affects almost every aspect of our lives. Housing size, for example, has ballooned in the last 60 years. The average size of a new American home in 1950 was 983 square feet; by 2011, the average new home was 2,480 square feet. And those figures don’t provide a full picture. In 1950, an average of 3.37 people lived in each American home; in 2011, that number had shrunk to 2.6 people. This means that we take up more than three times the amount of space per capita than we did 60 years ago.

Apparently our supersize homes don’t provide space enough for all our possessions, as is evidenced by our country’s $22 billion personal storage industry.

What exactly are we storing away in the boxes we cart from place to place? Much of what Americans consume doesn’t even find its way into boxes or storage spaces, but winds up in the garbage.

The Natural Resources Defense Council reports, for example, that 40 percent of the food Americans buy finds its way into the trash.

Enormous consumption has global, environmental and social consequences. For at least 335 consecutive months, the average temperature of the globe has exceeded the average for the 20th century. As a recent report for Congress explained, this temperature increase, as well as acidifying oceans, melting glaciers and Arctic Sea ice are “primarily driven by human activity.” Many experts believe consumerism and all that it entails — from the extraction of resources to manufacturing to waste disposal — plays a big part in pushing our planet to the brink. And as we saw with Foxconn and the recent Beijing smog scare, many of the affordable products we buy depend on cheap, often exploitive overseas labor and lax environmental regulations.

Does all this endless consumption result in measurably increased happiness?

In a recent study, the Northwestern University psychologist Galen V. Bodenhausen linked consumption with aberrant, antisocial behavior. Professor Bodenhausen found that “Irrespective of personality, in situations that activate a consumer mind-set, people show the same sorts of problematic patterns in well-being, including negative affect and social disengagement.” Though American consumer activity has increased substantially since the 1950s, happiness levels have flat-lined.

I DON’T know that the gadgets I was collecting in my loft were part of an aberrant or antisocial behavior plan during the first months I lived in SoHo. But I was just going along, starting some start-ups that never quite started up when I met Olga, an Andorran beauty, and fell hard. My relationship with stuff quickly came apart.

I followed her to Barcelona when her visa expired and we lived in a tiny flat, totally content and in love before we realized that nothing was holding us in Spain. We packed a few clothes, some toiletries and a couple of laptops and hit the road. We lived in Bangkok, Buenos Aires and Toronto with many stops in between.

A compulsive entrepreneur, I worked all the time and started new companies from an office that fit in my solar backpack. I created some do-gooder companies like We Are Happy to Serve You, which makes a reusable, ceramic version of the iconic New York City Anthora coffee cup and TreeHugger.com, an environmental design blog that I later sold to Discovery Communications. My life was full of love and adventure and work I cared about. I felt free and I didn’t miss the car and gadgets and house; instead I felt as if I had quit a dead-end job.

The relationship with Olga eventually ended, but my life never looked the same. I live smaller and travel lighter. I have more time and money. Aside from my travel habit — which I try to keep in check by minimizing trips, combining trips and purchasing carbon offsets — I feel better that my carbon footprint is significantly smaller than in my previous supersized life.

Intuitively, we know that the best stuff in life isn’t stuff at all, and that relationships, experiences and meaningful work are the staples of a happy life.

I like material things as much as anyone. I studied product design in school. I’m into gadgets, clothing and all kinds of things. But my experiences show that after a certain point, material objects have a tendency to crowd out the emotional needs they are meant to support.

I wouldn’t trade a second spent wandering the streets of Bangkok with Olga for anything I’ve owned. Often, material objects take up mental as well as physical space.

I’m still a serial entrepreneur, and my latest venture is to design thoughtfully constructed small homes that support our lives, not the other way around. Like the 420-square-foot space I live in, the houses I design contain less stuff and make it easier for owners to live within their means and to limit their environmental footprint. My apartment sleeps four people comfortably; I frequently have dinner parties for 12. My space is well-built, affordable and as functional as living spaces twice the size. As the guy who started TreeHugger.com, I sleep better knowing I’m not using more resources than I need. I have less — and enjoy more.

My space is small. My life is big.


Graham Hill is the founder of LifeEdited.com and TreeHugger.com.
 
Wow good read OP. Right now I feel as though I am a victim of this rat race we call life. This article has helped put some things into perspective. I thought this quote was profound. "Often, material objects take up mental as well as physical space."
 
Wow good read OP. Right now I feel as though I am a victim of this rat race we call life. This article has helped put some things into perspective. I thought this quote was profound. "Often, material objects take up mental as well as physical space."

Definitely. It's like when you buy really expensive clothes or shoes, and it gets to the point where it's actually affecting your daily activities because you don't want to get it dirty.
 
"A millionaire does not have the standing to tell regular people that money is overrated."


http://gawker.com/5989989/it-would-be-great-if-millionaires-would-not-lecture-us-on-living-with-less

I agree with this guy.

That article says that Graham Hill doesn't have credibility with his message because of the 15 years he spent traveling before realizing that materialistic needs make people miserable. To me, that's ridiculous, because he's merely presenting what he believes is true after experiencing it.

That's like saying people who wish to impart wisdom on you, but are more experienced than you, or have done more than you, have no right to tell you anything. That's just ridiculous. I can't even say it with a straight face.

It's one thing for someone like Bill Gates, who lives in a tech-laden mansion, to tell you that money is overrated, but if someone is living in a house smaller than a 3-car garage, it holds a little more value. Yes, he used his millions to live a very fun life for 15 years, but that shouldn't affect the end lesson.
 
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i agree with this dude but it's easy to say after you're a millionaire who can afford to take a decade off.
 
I agree in some respects. However, the concept of living within our means, and enjoying it should ring true with everyone else. This article's true amazement to me is how he keeps on going with startups. The concept of living well, without having a lot of material good should be apparent to anyone that has traveled for any length of time outside the U.S

In Ireland I had a great time in a flat (1 bedroom apartment). It was the first time I saw a washing machine without a dryer. The washing machine was on some sort of environmentally friendly spin cycle and took forever as well. After, the clothes were hung up on a drying rack.

Fast forward to now. I share a 120 square foot studio apartment in S.Korea with my gf. The fridge, closets, cupboards are all built seamlessly and well into the wall. It is basically soundproof. The door lock is touchscreen. I have a bed, a desk, a 42 inch tv, my laptop, and a small couch, and a sink/washer/stove combo. Honestly, it is all we really need. I found that because I spend so much less time cleaning up, buying new things etc I've learned how to cook food a lot better. My biggest expense is finding new foods to try and make.

I spend my days at the library studying, and at the park playing hoops or soccer. It's so nice to be able to clean up my whole place in 30 minutes. I think having a huge house is a big burden, unless you also have a big family. It's going to be apartments for me until I have a huge wolf dog, and 4 kids.
 
i hate when people who had it all and decide to change and have less tell us whats better.

i want to have the cars house and the honeys and decide for myself
 
I agree in some respects. However, the concept of living within our means, and enjoying it should ring true with everyone else. This article's true amazement to me is how he keeps on going with startups. The concept of living well, without having a lot of material good should be apparent to anyone that has traveled for any length of time outside the U.S

In Ireland I had a great time in a flat (1 bedroom apartment). It was the first time I saw a washing machine without a dryer. The washing machine was on some sort of environmentally friendly spin cycle and took forever as well. After, the clothes were hung up on a drying rack.

Fast forward to now. I share a 120 square foot studio apartment in S.Korea with my gf. The fridge, closets, cupboards are all built seamlessly and well into the wall. It is basically soundproof. The door lock is touchscreen. I have a bed, a desk, a 42 inch tv, my laptop, and a small couch, and a sink/washer/stove combo. Honestly, it is all we really need. I found that because I spend so much less time cleaning up, buying new things etc I've learned how to cook food a lot better. My biggest expense is finding new foods to try and make.

I spend my days at the library studying, and at the park playing hoops or soccer. It's so nice to be able to clean up my whole place in 30 minutes. I think having a huge house is a big burden, unless you also have a big family. It's going to be apartments for me until I have a huge wolf dog, and 4 kids.

That sounds awesome, thanks for sharing.

Do you currently work?
 
i hate when people who had it all and decide to change and have less tell us whats better.

i want to have the cars house and the honeys and decide for myself

There's nothing wrong with finding things out for yourself.

I mean, do you listen to every piece of advice people in life give you? Of course not. But why do you hate it?

:lol:
 
i hate when people who had it all and decide to change and have less tell us whats better.

i want to have the cars house and the honeys and decide for myself

There's nothing wrong with finding things out for yourself.

I mean, do you listen to every piece of advice people in life give you? Of course not. But why do you hate it?

:lol:

I hate it because its misleading, and limiting ppl
 
i hate when people who had it all and decide to change and have less tell us whats better.

i want to have the cars house and the honeys and decide for myself

There's nothing wrong with finding things out for yourself.

I mean, do you listen to every piece of advice people in life give you? Of course not. But why do you hate it?

:lol:

I hate it because its misleading, and limiting ppl

Limiting people? So saying "hey, you don't need those 10 pairs of Jordans because they're gonna give you more grief than pleasure over time" or "hey, buying all those gadgets is useless because you're gonna be so busy paying for them, you can't even enjoy them" is limiting people? What part of the world do you live in where things work like that?

Maybe he if told people to stop going to school, or to stop working on things they love, or to stop traveling, I can see that limiting people, but he actually talks quite often about his serial entrepreneurism and what it means to him.

Did you even read the damn thing?
 
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yes i read it and he is basically saying that material objects are worthless to him and have had a negative effect on his life

im saying that why should i consider his opinion on what kind of effect it will have on me
 
yes i read it and he is basically saying that material objects are worthless to him and have had a negative effect on his life

im saying that why should i consider his opinion on what kind of effect it will have on me

It's called food for thought. That's why people read, right? Sometimes you'll read something that you vehemently reject, sometimes you'll read something that aligns with your mindset and reinforces, and sometimes you'll read something that's just entertaining to read.

To say it limits people is nothing short of ignorant and deviates from the point of the article entirely.

It's apparent that you are on a different wavelength of thought.
 
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OP, if you were genuinely inspired by Hill's message, then I highly recommend that you read Walden by Henry David Thoreau.

It's the quintessential manifesto on how to live a simple life.




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OP, if you were genuinely inspired by Hill's message, then I highly recommend that you read Walden by Henry David Thoreau.

It's the quintessential manifesto on how to live a simple life.




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I will look into that, thanks for the rec.

I'm a fan of Thoreau's work.
 
Lol some of us are forced to live with less, out of necessity. Life on a college budget is frustrating at times. I've gone a week without my car because I can't afford gas anymore :lol:
 
i agree with this dude but it's easy to say after you're a millionaire who can afford to take a decade off.
Exactly.

I mean his Soho pad with "less" isn't exactly too shabby...

 
Makes sense.  I don't see why people are objecting.  He's preaching that we buy fewer things, he never said anything about money.
 
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