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[mastamind033]

Weirdo behavior for the new month.

How long was it that you matched with her till she hit you with this? I got a similar message once but the girl was being more passive aggressive saying **** like why do men match with women they never intend to talk to.

 

[willypete]

How long was it that you matched with her till she hit you with this? I got a similar message once but the girl was being more passive aggressive saying **** like why do men match with women they never intend to talk to.

To be honest idk. But at the same time it clearly says 550 miles away so why even send a message in the first place.

 

[oidreez]

How long was it that you matched with her till she hit you with this? I got a similar message once but the girl was being more passive aggressive saying **** like why do men match with women they never intend to talk to.

so they can ghost you after 5 messages?

 

[Deleted member 37467]

All these dating games/advice makes you wonder who wins in the end

Women say they want to be pursued but when a guy does, he's thirsty/needy and it's a turn off

Never listen to a woman when it comes to advice on how to get women.

What they say they want and what they actually respond to are 2 very different things.

 

[thenewjs23]

met her to sell her some goods and they made a connection?

It's to sell things bro not people. Rubratings, skipthegames, escortbabylon are for buying people.

Yeah wife and I got clarification. He was selling some sort of Nintendo Toy for his Switch. They met up, to exchange had a discussion about a game. She friends him on Facebook, then hits him up for gaming advice. Fast forward a month they are dating. They are both a bit dorky, but even my wife said she was a cute dork. We are both flabbergasted.

 

[thenewjs23]

Weirdo behavior for the new month.

When I was on the sites, I got a couple of these. I went out with a chick, kissed on th first date. Second date she has a 5k the next morning. Then she straight tells me she contemplating inviting me back to her place, but she has to get up early for her 5k. I tell her to go get rest and we can get up after her 5k. SHe hits me with a text at 3 in the morning, claiming I wasn’t a man and a real man would have taken her home and “f#$Ked her Brian’s out” . Now I’m the reason she’s sexually frustrated with 5k in a few hours.

Oddly, my wife initiated a conversation on HINGE.

 

[Mark Antony]

That's gotta be advice from one of the many rando online dating coaches. "Challenge his manhood, men love this and will respond to the challenge"

 

[Deleted member 37467]

That's gotta be advice from one of the many rando online dating coaches. "Challenge his manhood, men love this and will respond to the challenge"

It's just a woman w/ a hurt ego because she looked @ it like a rejection.

I've had women call me weird or gay because I'm unwilling to hit them raw on the first meetup.

If your normal is letting a dude you just met run up in you raw, sorry but I'm not interested.

 

[fluid hips]

I've had women call me weird or gay because I'm unwilling to hit them raw on the first meetup.

If your normal is letting a dude you just met run up in you raw, sorry but I'm not interested.

Wild

 

[chrisftdot]

Not a Tinder/Hinge/Bumble story but I asked my co-worker out the other day and I got turned down . Need some advice on how to proceed. I know it's a long story but I tried to summarize it as much as possible down below. For the purpose of the story I'll call her "Jess".

Cliffs notes:
- We're both Nurses and 26 y.o.
- She started working on my unit a couple of months ago
- I see her once every two weeks or so, as I work Full-time and she only works night shifts (Part-Timer)
- I've yet to actually work a shift with her, but I've had lengthy chats with her during the change of shift/handoff report.... or as I would be finishing my shift and she'd be starting hers
- I'd always get her to laugh in those 15-20 mins, and we'd always engage in some witty-sarcastic banter
- One day, one of my Foreign co-workers offered to grab me some water and asked me "How do you like your water?"... and I responded sarcastically with "IDK...medium rare?". Jess (My Crush) overheard my joke and started laughing.
- The next day, she was giving me report on one of the patients and she cleverly referenced my "Medium Rare water" joke and giggled... I know it's a big no-no to ask a co-worker out in a professional setting but I thought I had a chance after she referenced my joke
- The next time I saw her, I noticed she had a tattoo of which looked like a heartbeat but she told me it was the Harry Potter castle and it was just the form of art... regardless I started teasing her on her tattoo and pulled up a picture of the castle on my phone and compared them .
- Ten minutes passed, and I was fixated on asking her out. I didn't want to be too upfront so I asked her, "Hey Jess, are the DMs open?"... then she responded with, "Not, for you" in a sassy voice ...... and I just walked away
- I told 5-7 of my female co-workers (around the same age as me and her) the story and they told me she's usually on the shy and reserved side... and they all advised me to try again.

I need advice from some of you Alpha males... Should I just take my losses and move on or should I give it another shot?

 

[thenewjs23]

Not a Tinder/Hinge/Bumble story but I asked my co-worker out the other day and I got turned down . Need some advice on how to proceed. I know it's a long story but I tried to summarize it as much as possible down below. For the purpose of the story I'll call her "Jess".

Cliffs notes:
- We're both Nurses and 26 y.o.
- She started working on my unit a couple of months ago
- I see her once every two weeks or so, as I work Full-time and she only works night shifts (Part-Timer)
- I've yet to actually work a shift with her, but I've had lengthy chats with her during the change of shift/handoff report.... or as I would be finishing my shift and she'd be starting hers
- I'd always get her to laugh in those 15-20 mins, and we'd always engage in some witty-sarcastic banter
- One day, one of my Foreign co-workers offered to grab me some water and asked me "How do you like your water?"... and I responded sarcastically with "IDK...medium rare?". Jess (My Crush) overheard my joke and started laughing.
- The next day, she was giving me report on one of the patients and she cleverly referenced my "Medium Rare water" joke and giggled... I know it's a big no-no to ask a co-worker out in a professional setting but I thought I had a chance after she referenced my joke
- The next time I saw her, I noticed she had a tattoo of which looked like a heartbeat but she told me it was the Harry Potter castle and it was just the form of art... regardless I started teasing her on her tattoo and pulled up a picture of the castle on my phone and compared them .
- Ten minutes passed, and I was fixated on asking her out. I didn't want to be too upfront so I asked her, "Hey Jess, are the DMs open?"... then she responded with, "Not, for you" in a sassy voice ...... and I just walked away
- I told 5-7 of my female co-workers (around the same age as me and her) the story and they told me she's usually on the shy and reserved side... and they all advised me to try again.

I need advice from some of you Alpha males... Should I just take my losses and move on or should I give it another shot?

Unless you want to end up in HR, I say leave it alone.

 

[kennyg]

Sounds like you shot your shot and missed.
I’d take my ball and shoot at another basket. It’s plenty of other women ready to go.

Take what those ladies say with a grain of salt. Women don’t always dish out the best advice.

 

[Deleted member 37467]

- I told 5-7 of my female co-workers (around the same age as me and her) the story and they told me she's usually on the shy and reserved side... and they all advised me to try again.

I need advice from some of you Alpha males... Should I just take my losses and move on or should I give it another shot?

You pretend she doesn't exist, don't even look in her direction.

If she tries baiting you into giving her attention or approaches you on some "hey handsome" type ****, you then shoot her down.

4 billion women on the planet, keep it moving.

 

[WASHED KING]

Not a Tinder/Hinge/Bumble story but I asked my co-worker out the other day and I got turned down . Need some advice on how to proceed. I know it's a long story but I tried to summarize it as much as possible down below. For the purpose of the story I'll call her "Jess".

Cliffs notes:
- We're both Nurses and 26 y.o.
- She started working on my unit a couple of months ago
- I see her once every two weeks or so, as I work Full-time and she only works night shifts (Part-Timer)
- I've yet to actually work a shift with her, but I've had lengthy chats with her during the change of shift/handoff report.... or as I would be finishing my shift and she'd be starting hers
- I'd always get her to laugh in those 15-20 mins, and we'd always engage in some witty-sarcastic banter
- One day, one of my Foreign co-workers offered to grab me some water and asked me "How do you like your water?"... and I responded sarcastically with "IDK...medium rare?". Jess (My Crush) overheard my joke and started laughing.
- The next day, she was giving me report on one of the patients and she cleverly referenced my "Medium Rare water" joke and giggled... I know it's a big no-no to ask a co-worker out in a professional setting but I thought I had a chance after she referenced my joke
- The next time I saw her, I noticed she had a tattoo of which looked like a heartbeat but she told me it was the Harry Potter castle and it was just the form of art... regardless I started teasing her on her tattoo and pulled up a picture of the castle on my phone and compared them .
- Ten minutes passed, and I was fixated on asking her out. I didn't want to be too upfront so I asked her, "Hey Jess, are the DMs open?"... then she responded with, "Not, for you" in a sassy voice ...... and I just walked away
- I told 5-7 of my female co-workers (around the same age as me and her) the story and they told me she's usually on the shy and reserved side... and they all advised me to try again.

I need advice from some of you Alpha males... Should I just take my losses and move on or should I give it another shot?

Act like she doesn’t exist. If she’s interested she’ll initiate the conversation. If not just charge it to the game.

 

[Remy LeBeau]

Leave it alone

Side note, if you're gonna approach somebody you work with don't go sharing your business with everybody you work with. 5-7 of your co-workers gonna turn into 15-21 of your co-workers all in your **** and you don't want the potential drama that comes with that.

 

[Mark Antony]

She made it clear she doesn't want to be considered an option so don't make her one and move on. I wouldn't put the extra energy into pretending like she doesn't exist, just keep living your life and shooting other shots. Personal experience had that happen and after long forgetting about it she asked me out.

 

[chrisftdot]

She made it clear she doesn't want to be considered an option so don't make her one and move on. I wouldn't put the extra energy into pretending like she doesn't exist, just keep living your life and shooting other shots. Personal experience had that happen and after long forgetting about it she asked me out.

True, I'm probably just gonna move on I guess. I had the notion that I had some short of shot with her because when she said "Not, for you"... she said it in a playful-sassy voice... almost as if she was baiting me/trying to engage in more banter (like those Ryan Reynolds' movies).

But you guys are right I, it's not worth the energy if she's not interested.

 

[NToweG]

True, I'm probably just gonna move on I guess. I had the notion that I had some short of shot with her because when she said "Not, for you"... she said it in a playful-sassy voice... almost as if she was baiting me/trying to engage in more banter (like those Ryan Reynolds' movies).

But you guys are right I, it's not worth the energy if she's not interested.

Do you like always.
Start giving her slightly less (friendly)attention.
Start giving someone who you both know in your department slightly more attention(dont cross boundaries).
Dont make it too out of the normal.
Jess will sense it, and some how some way she'll cough up the number with less effort from you this time around.

If you feel/see no change after redirecting your attention else where, immediately drop it.

 

[Mark Antony]

True, I'm probably just gonna move on I guess. I had the notion that I had some short of shot with her because when she said "Not, for you"... she said it in a playful-sassy voice... almost as if she was baiting me/trying to engage in more banter (like those Ryan Reynolds' movies).

But you guys are right I, it's not worth the energy if she's not interested.

Well that could be playful, but response should still be the same. If she's really into you she'll be obsessing over it like you are "why did I say that". Either way keep it moving, if it was playful nothing wrong with her having to work a little bit to repair that.

 

[willypete]

No "go wash your face b" or "yns" yet? I'm impressed NT

 

[fluid hips]

- Ten minutes passed, and I was fixated on asking her out. I didn't want to be too upfront so I asked her, "Hey Jess, are the DMs open?"... then she responded with, "Not, for you" in a sassy voice ...... and I just walked away

Your problem was not being direct.

What I would have done was pull her to the size when you both weren't busy and be like let's exchange numbers and get to know each other outside of work.

Stop putting her on a pedestal and calling her your crush. Plenty of women out there

 

[ahat]

Unless you want to end up in HR, I say leave it alone.

The difference between sexes is funny, cuz if a man pursues a woman after she turned him down the first time hes seen as weird or creepy and a potential HR situation.

I had the opposite at an old job. New girl in another dept takes a liking to me. She tells a couple women in her dept. It was like every day for a week-week and a half theyd come up to me asking things like "are you single?" "Do you think ___ is cute?" "You should go out with ___".

At first id politely say no im not interested, but after a couple of times i was ready to cuss everyone out.

 

[da hen]

Don’t crap where you eat buddy

 

[Present]

True, I'm probably just gonna move on I guess. I had the notion that I had some short of shot with her because when she said "Not, for you"... she said it in a playful-sassy voice... almost as if she was baiting me/trying to engage in more banter (like those Ryan Reynolds' movies).

But you guys are right I, it's not worth the energy if she's not interested.

What makes you jump to the conclusion that she "isn't interested"?

She sounds quite interested actually, in what you don't know yet, but its so much so that I'm sure others have noticed and are just waiting to see how you move.

The best of us don't change up just because we getting some attention. Getting attention from women shouldn't be unusual or odd.

Women are just human beings - they have the same emotions as men do.

If a little attention gets you rattled then you're giving her all the power to do with your emotions as she will.

She should only be just one of the women giving you attention.

All in the car on the way to work anticipating seeing her.

Totally fixated. Goofball ****.

"I know it's a big no-no to ask a co-worker out in a professional setting"

Define "Ask Out".

If you have not clearly defined your objective then how can you ever get anywhere?

Doesn't matter what she wants - at all. Doesn't matter what her interest in you is. That will come out later.

If your objective is to hook up / have sex - then create the environment for that to happen.

If your objective is an actual relationship - then create the environment for that to happen.

Way too early for the "cut off" game because you haven't established anything to "cut off" - you aint even got her number yet Fam

None of this is on her - its on you as a Man, to have a clear objective and follow through with it while accepting nothing less.

Your time is (or should be) valuable to you.

Never let anything mess with your purpose / career / money though - this is a coworker so you'll have a lot going on.

W/O a clear objective you'll end up learning some lessons - especially messing with someone at work.

Nothing wrong with that if you know what you are doing and can mitigate the risks (have your resume ready / start applying for other jobs just in case / save your cash up / etc etc).

 

[wayniac211]

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Don’t crap where you eat buddy

seriously. Smash off work hours and tell grand stories about your escapades at work