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But the point of a relationship is to be happy. If my woman looking chunky is a turn off to me why shouldn't I let it be known? Oh wait because it is "superficial" right? It doesn't matter, sexual attraction is important in a relationship. If her and that extra baggage causes me to go limp every so often I bet she won't be viewed as the bad guy when she speaks up and I am no longer able to please her. So I don't think an issue like that, which affects the relationship, should be ignored because it is a "selfish" gain for me.Originally Posted by toast1985
Not to argue semantics here, but there are opportunities that you see in people that could help them outside your personal benefit. When its for selfish gain, it then becomes questionable.
People will change in a relationship.
People will change their mate in a relationship.
It is bound to happen sooner or later. Subconsciously or consciously. It seems that people want to vilify those individuals that consciously do it. Why? People do it. Don't knock me because I know it will be done. Hell I think it is better than sitting there like a quiet church mouse and not speaking up when you see an issue. Yes the word issue is perspective based but and issue is an issue. You get fat on me, I am speaking up on it. Forget all of that, "Love me for who I am" Disney talk. I want to love you and get hard by you on command for as long as possible. Point blank.