Official Depression thread

[Bruce Banner]

I shouldn't even complain honestly those are just minor things to me , I'm blessed to even wake up and be Alive , y'all stay up man , depress or not dark days are only temporary we all go through it .

 

[fastcash]

Don't find permanent solutions to temporarily problems.


Life is so great.

You're given a new page every day.

You wake up alive when some wake up to horror.

You are the beholder of your own world.

You decide what to build.

You willl quit that herb, bars, liquor, fap if you really put your MENTALITY to it.

I've quit the vices to my life. I have a few cigs probably 1 every 3 months or so. Some hookah. I have some beers and liquor from time to time. But it's moderation and I don't let it take over me.

I've read about Bars and the people who deal and use it.

don't do it to yourself.

Happiness isn't some stop on a train. You have to make and find it.

One step at a time.

I hit the gym. I took a nice jog out. I go for swims. I rejoiced my relationship and rekindled love. Keep yourself occupied and focus on a daily/weekly goal. A step of progress is a benchmark of growth in success which leads to love and happiness.

Also splurge on yourself when you believe you hit a goal.

Buy the extra bag of chips or order of carnitas tacos

That fendi belt is legit so go cop

Dr.Zues said no one is more you-er than you.

 

[illicit305]

Aright man first thing I'm gonna tell you is I'm not a role model. I still got my demons but I am very aware of it and I quit alcohol and opiates and tranquilizers 3 years ago with no relapse.

I wasn't prescribed Xanax I was on seroquil. Equally as bad probably worse. I never really got that deep into it though because I didn't like the way it felt. I was on that oxy/percs grind. It's like this with any drug you wanna quit though for me.

I reached my limit in my head. I said today is the day and just quit on all of them. Alcohol was the hardest, I wasn't right for two weeks, puking and shaking. But what's your other option? You wanna go to treatment and get out and stay 6 months in a halfway house? I didn't. That's why I said I had to do it on my own and if I relapse I will go to treatment. The thought of relapse and going to treatment is what kept me from all those.

I'm just that kind of guy too. I'm so hard headed I will not go back on my word if it's the last thing I do. I told my friends I was done so I was done. I'm not gonna look like a liar or fiend. Plus what do I look like letting some garbage in a bottle ruin me? That's what I'm saying. Get mad at that ****. Let it fuel you in another way. Find something you love and just go hard af at it.

Don't quit green right now either. You're gonna need it when you get those urges burn one down. Burn five down. Smoke till you're in a coma and wake up and tomorrow will be another day you didn't use Xanax. After the initial blow of getting off all the garbage you will naturally smoke less over time.

This is what works for me. I was a HEAVY drinker and opiate user. The tranquilizers were only a few month stint. But you only got two options, keep doing them or stop. Straight up. Just do it and never look back.

thank you for the response and taking time & care with your post , thats my plan , cop some green and just smoke herb and cigs til i get any xanax cravings/withdrawals out  , then once thats out my system , kick the green and use squares & minimal drinking to quit the green ( i had to do it for drug court in dade county when i was 20 y/o ) and i dont really like drinking so i spent a year where i would have no more then 2 drinks , 3-4 times a week......i really think i need to quit everything (cigarettes for health not really money/mind altering) because that one year i was on drug court , like i said i would drink instead of smoke so that turned into , go to the gym , to go out and drink , meet girls and flourish .....nowadays ill leave work and just pop a bar or two , and just smoke with a friend while playing 2k.....that one year i was drug-free , court ordered , almost like a probation.....that one year was my most financially stable year ( lol i was 20 wtf right ) , a girl tattooed my name , and another had my baby 

  not saying i was doing it but the yamb ratio was BY FAR the year that i flourished the most.....even my boss and his wife were like 

   at the amount of girls i was pulling while at work through the facebook when it was poppin in 09 lol 

 

[mwalker]

I have mood swings, I could be fine for a month then feel like **** for a month, lately I've been on the good side of things. I struggle with communicating and making connections because I feel like people wouldn't understand me. I'm a freshman in college and trying to create connections has been hard for me. I usually don't reach out to people because I don't want to be seen as annoying or weird so I always let people initiate conversation with me first, it's something that upsets me because I've been like this for years now and I know I'm in a crucial part of life and don't want to mess it up. 

Been out of a relationship that went down the ****ter for about a year and a half now and ever since I feel like I was changed by it, she had bipolar disorder and it was a rollercoaster of emotions for me and her, she's in a better place than where she was but we don't speak no more, she had way to much negative energy with her and I knew I had to let that person go if I wanted to keep bettering myself, also was my closest friend for about 5 years prior to the relationship. I'm lonely I would say but lately I've been trying to psyche myself out of the thought of being lonely, saw a good read the other day regarding it

http://ideas.ted.com/how-to-beat-loneliness/

I've been wanting a girl for awhile now and am trying to figure out where to start, having someone there to believe in you and really appreciate the person for you are is really what I want. 

edit: I also had a sister who apparently I grew up with, unfortunately she passed when I was still a baby, I'm not really close with any of my family on both sides, makes me wonder what could have been if she was still here

All I know is these things will pass and I'll eventually get better, all of you guys in here keep your heads up 

 

 

[mplsdunk]

illicit305

that's literally the only thing is miss about drinking. Every week get a new one night stand it was like tinder in real life. I was making guap back then just going ham. **** had to stop though my god the hangovers. that was when I was like shiiiit I got a problem. New blackout waking up in a new place like 4 times a week. Then it got worse and worse after the years.

Yeah don't even bother try and kicking cigs now. It isn't gonna happen. Rome wasn't built in a day. Kick the hardest one first. Cigs are the hardest I guess but like you said squares>xan.

Quitting drugs is easy once you get the formula down. Which is suck it up because it's gonna suck but you just gotta bite the bullet.

 

[nachobroadweezy]

"the secret to having it all is knowing you already do"
"Control your mind before it controls you."

I've had my battles with depression. Based on failed goals and Lost loved ones.

What helps me is minimizing my news watching, it's just too depressing.

 

[adobecs4]

School. F computers. F calculus. F homework. F deadlines. So tired of it all.

 

[guccjermaine2]

Sitting outside and watching nature is very therapeutic. Remember there's an upside to everything; good or bad.

 

[Rj4147]

Whats the verdict on caffeine? Been depressed for a while smh. I drink 2 larges a day lol

 

[jumpman247]

Cheer Up

 

[Rj4147]

Parents thinkin im lazy to get things done when in reality id want nothing more than to be productive...smh. makes it worse. Being depressed makes it difficult to get things done for me. 8-9 years been like this. Why?

 

[gentrification]

First day not waking up paranoid in like a month 

 Say no to pills.

 

[gentrification]

 
Parents thinkin im lazy to get things done when in reality id want nothing more than to be productive...smh. makes it worse. Being depressed makes it difficult to get things done for me. 8-9 years been like this. Why?

The thing is, it would be easy to say get on some ssri. But some people have to work for happiness(myself included). I suffered/suffer through bouts of depression. Waiting for it to go away is simply not going to happen. Start off simple exercise as much as you can daily. Start meditating. Start incorporating more fruit and water into your diet. Stop drinking. Some days I feel low still, but tis is life. Not every day is a good one. Buy you're talking about 8-9 years. You have to try those things out and do them consistently for a while. I'm the type that wants immediate gratification and I still complain. But I'm trying to relieve years of depression in just 8 months. Not realistic. Work at it, you will see results. Peace. 

 

[getback]

This is a weird question, but how do you meditate or where did you learn? Is there a good youtube channel or something with a starting point?

 

[mycoldyourdone]

I know its hard to get out of that funk when youre in it. Just remember that one small thing can change your feeling. Like doing jumping jacks, weights, or talking to a person you havent in a while. Its a not a permanent solution but it also reminds you that the down time isnt permanent either. Control it. Even if you dont think you can, make it a challenge. Being too negative will NOT help.

A weird and kind of dark way i cope sometimes is i go visit the r/depression subreddit on reddit and read peoples posts and thank myself that im not that negative or in their situations.

 

[eracism]

This is a weird question, but how do you meditate or where did you learn? Is there a good youtube channel or something with a starting point?

 

[abernja]

I won't get into religious debates (that's for you to decide) but the greatest anit-depressant is a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

Life is too short to be depressed. Here are a few tips...

Keep a journal and write down 1 thing every morning you're thankful for and why no matter how minuscule it may seem.

Take control of your budget. (Link in my signature if you want some help)

Control what you can, don't fret about the things you can't.

Set realistic goals to achieve.

Find an accountability partner/trustworthy mentor.

Be content, but not complacent.

Don't be a sheep. Do what's right for you and not just because it's the popular/cool thing to do.

Get 6-8 hours of sleep each night. The earlier you can sleep, the better it is for your body.

Drink water, get proper sleep, and eat healthy nutrient dense foods.

Change your behaviors, change your life.

 

[CHAOSE57]

Whatever you are going through, there's somebody out there who'd be glad just to be in your situation.

 

[Bruce Banner]

Whatever you are going through, there's somebody out there who'd be glad just to be in your situation.

Man it's a horrible way to think but at times it gets you that extra boost you need , I don't want to be thinking about Kids dying in Africa because of hunger .

 

[dman14]

http://niketalk.com/t/212336/motivational-quotes-to-keep-you-going/3100_100

 

[truth-serum]

Negro please. There are people in this country dying of hunger.

Might as well thank the white man for enslaving your ancestors and making them "civilised"

Man it's a horrible way to think but at times it gets you that extra boost you need , I don't want to be thinking about Kids dying in Africa because of hunger .

 

[Bruce Banner]

Negro please. There are people in this country dying of hunger.

Might as well thank the white man for enslaving your ancestors and making them "civilised"

Don't make this a race thing .

 

[twoonesicks]

this is a good thread to have on this forum since it is male dominated. there aren't a whole lot of outlets for men to go and depressed men are looked down upon by both genders most of the time. it is definitely harder for men to deal with depression.

was cheated on by my ex gf while in the relationship. i knew that she 99% cheated and she didn't leave just cuz "things werent working out" but i just got official confirmaton. all the BS was just that.....BS. finally got some rest after being up for about 48 hours. i loved the heck out of this woman and she claimed to want a future with me. we wanted the same kind of life, or so i thought.  total lies and deception. it hurts, just the ultimate act of betrayal to someone who loves you. i have a hard enough time trusting and now i don't know how i can. if trust isnt there in a relationship you cant have a relationship though. i supported her (not financially or trickin) only for her to do that. what makes it harder to move on is that my health is really bad and i cant do the things i love. im a private person and dont talk about my illness because i dont care for sympathy. the only people who know the full extent are the ones i've been in a relationship with. i hold everything in and don't have friends/family i can go to so i vent online. i've never felt so much anger towards a person, and i know it's never healthy. my focus right now needs to be on myself. i'm not weak for feeling this way, i'm human.

when people say "theres someone who has it worse" i feel like its just marginalizing your problems. yes theres always going to be someone who has it worse but that doesnt change the way i feel and what im going through.

 

[AIR J XIII]

I suppose I'll just leave this here...

 

[dh1water]

smoke tree

if you can't smoke cause of your job or whatever...see a doc

get pills

can't fade the pills?

be a Miami Dolphin or Cleveland Browns fan

Instantly feel better bout your life