You're not making much sense. The word ****** is the quintessential derogatory term. Considered the most foul in the English language by many. The "it's a difference when it ends in an a" argument is so asinine at this point that it's comical. You find fault with adopting a flag based on "treason, hate, and slavery" and yet somehow give a pass to the word ******? The term used to describe your ancestors during hundreds of years of oppression? The term that's still used to this day by the descendants of those who considered your people to be subhuman? Open your eyes to what's in front of you, brother. The use of the word ****** by African Americans is one of the biggest mind***** ever. It's gotten to the point where that's how we so commonly see ourselves. Don't simply rally behind this flag issue and forget that it's part of a bigger picture.
And save that nonsense about blacks not using it to oppress one another. Search any video where black people are in conflict, or are fighting one another. You may hear the word used a dozen times over, but not once does it sound like it's being spoken to uplift the person it was directed at.