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What were the things you did?
I had an experience recently that kinda destroyed my social life, and it was due to a lot of immaturity/psychological issues/insecurities that I hadn't realized were and completely shaped my reality in a way that did not match up with the way things were.
It made me really look at what lies at the seat of my soul, and what made me react instinctively in certain ways, and I'm starting to realize that it's all about my perspective and what emotional place my thoughts and actions are coming from.
So, this kind of set me on a real introspective journey. I've got nothing but time and opportunity now to really grow and mature as a person, and I really want to do this.
For anyone who's been in this situation before, or even mature/secure in themselves, what are the actionable things you did to improve your emotional/maturity/security?
Things I've been doing:
-Reading a lot on neuroses and started looking for another psychiatrist (my job stopped paying for the one i went to, and i stopped going before the holidays)
-I've been in the gym about 4 times a week for the last few weeks and plan to keep it this way.
-I've been creating alot more, like writing and putting together business ideas
-I've been really all about trying to increase (or get some initial) "Self Love", but to be honest I have no idea how to go about getting that.
So, who's been there? Who's a mature person, or someone who finds themselves maturing, or in general just who's letting go of their baggage/stuff (life-wise, not just relationships)?
I guess my question is: How does a person mature? How does a person get rid of insecurity? How does one gain self-love and self-respect? I though I had these things, and I know I have self-esteem, but I've recently realized that I have neither of these things, and now I want to get them.
I'm not necesarilly in some sort of crisis, just been thinking really long and hard (pause) about my mind and soul and who I am at my core, and I found myself in a situation which is perfect for me to actually approach and deal with these things.
I had an experience recently that kinda destroyed my social life, and it was due to a lot of immaturity/psychological issues/insecurities that I hadn't realized were and completely shaped my reality in a way that did not match up with the way things were.
It made me really look at what lies at the seat of my soul, and what made me react instinctively in certain ways, and I'm starting to realize that it's all about my perspective and what emotional place my thoughts and actions are coming from.
So, this kind of set me on a real introspective journey. I've got nothing but time and opportunity now to really grow and mature as a person, and I really want to do this.
For anyone who's been in this situation before, or even mature/secure in themselves, what are the actionable things you did to improve your emotional/maturity/security?
Things I've been doing:
-Reading a lot on neuroses and started looking for another psychiatrist (my job stopped paying for the one i went to, and i stopped going before the holidays)
-I've been in the gym about 4 times a week for the last few weeks and plan to keep it this way.
-I've been creating alot more, like writing and putting together business ideas
-I've been really all about trying to increase (or get some initial) "Self Love", but to be honest I have no idea how to go about getting that.
So, who's been there? Who's a mature person, or someone who finds themselves maturing, or in general just who's letting go of their baggage/stuff (life-wise, not just relationships)?
I guess my question is: How does a person mature? How does a person get rid of insecurity? How does one gain self-love and self-respect? I though I had these things, and I know I have self-esteem, but I've recently realized that I have neither of these things, and now I want to get them.
I'm not necesarilly in some sort of crisis, just been thinking really long and hard (pause) about my mind and soul and who I am at my core, and I found myself in a situation which is perfect for me to actually approach and deal with these things.