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ReIationship Standards VoI. The $$$
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You're first sentence is how me and my wife do it. I put 50% of my check into our joint account and that accounts for everything we spend money on. From the baby, to groceries, bills, vacations, etc. She def comes out winning since I still usually eat out about 80% of the time still and pay for those meals by myself but whatever. We have a good system going and If she's happy, then I'm happy
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Wildin with that 6 months ****, it's not that deep
My girl always took care of me when I was low on the funds at times, and I always made sure to repay the favor. Relationships are about reciprocation, like it or not. But that doesn't mean that reciprocation will always involve money.
Bingo.
We have an account for the bills so we don't even calculate stuff like that anymore. I honestly don't even know the % we go in. And at this point in our relationship, it doesn't even matter tbh. I can pay for everything and not care now. Home, kid, etc and my household happiness is more important than who pays for what. But as a young guy or someone fresh in a relationship I would definitely suggest splitting 50/50 or at least knowing who pays for what and building from the ground up together to get the mindset and understanding all on the same page. Teamwork makes the dream work.
When I'm down she holds the team down, and when she's down she ain't gotta worry about a thing. Thats all that matters to us.
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They're aren't a lot of shared expenses though. Housing, utilities, groceries and recurring bills (internet, cable, phone etc).
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This! Good job my guy. My wife also does the same for me. Last month she plugged me with a SPA day. Just to show her appreciation for me.
Paying for everything
Where they do that at?
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I pay the rent and apt insurance. She pays lights, phone bill and cable (since she wanted it). She goes to the grocery store every other week and on the 2nd trip I pay half Cuz i always throw the **** I like in there, the 1st trip is all her tho. Car notes, we pay or own and the insurance I pay 280 and she gives me 100. Then whatever is leftover do what u please. O and we got a vacation box we do every year. Every pay check u gotta contribute no less than 5 dollars and it's duck taped up with 1 little slit for the bills to fit in. When we pick a place we end up cutting it open and putting it towards the trip.
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^ Do you and your lady share a bank account?
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My Lord
My girl is somewhat similar. Every here and there she would write me poems and stuff. But about a month ago, we had dinner with her aunt, who makes bread. Me and her were talking and she mentioned that I should buy and wear Creed Aventus cologne. I always wanted a bottle, but never have enough money laying around to comfortably buy it. A few days later, she blessed me with the 2.5 ounce bottle, with her final check from the job she was working at our school. That's what it should be all about. You take care of each other.
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Nope. I don't want no parts of that.
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Remember a homie of mine back in the gap took me to this high class skrip club.
Dude had a open tab and was buyin us smokes and drank.
Prolly spent around 1200 in just the bar that night.
He gave us bout 100 in ones, say what you want but i pocketed around 60 bucks. I know how to make 3 dollars look like 6 ya feel me.
Dude was ballin, but he opened the tab on the wrong card and his chick found out.
The charge from the skrip club was some random name like a rental company or somethin but it didnt make sense to her.
Needless to say she withdrew 6 stacks and left that ***** to hang dry in the summer time wit the doors locked and his car keys inside.
He ended up kickin the door in and got arrested.
Ill never share an account.
Dude had a open tab and was buyin us smokes and drank.
Prolly spent around 1200 in just the bar that night.
He gave us bout 100 in ones, say what you want but i pocketed around 60 bucks. I know how to make 3 dollars look like 6 ya feel me.
Dude was ballin, but he opened the tab on the wrong card and his chick found out.
The charge from the skrip club was some random name like a rental company or somethin but it didnt make sense to her.
Needless to say she withdrew 6 stacks and left that ***** to hang dry in the summer time wit the doors locked and his car keys inside.
He ended up kickin the door in and got arrested.
Ill never share an account.
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[Video][/Video] "If I was dead broke, *** out, would you love me? Then you must be a match made in heaven"
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Son ****** up
Son shot himself in the foot. Anyone who makes a dumb move like that shouldn't be who you base things off of. Type of person who leaves the car running while they pump gas.
But everyone doesn't share accounts so it still might not be the right thing for you. All depends.
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Rent's too high, and I'm not that ugly to be paying all of a woman's bills. Gotta split them expenses.
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50/50. More like, we take turns paying when we eat out.
For example, I pay for lunch, he pays for dinner. If we take a long trip somewhere and I drive, he pays for gas, and vice versa. He pays for groceries, I cook, and he does dishes.
I'd feel terrible if I made someone pay for everything.
For example, I pay for lunch, he pays for dinner. If we take a long trip somewhere and I drive, he pays for gas, and vice versa. He pays for groceries, I cook, and he does dishes.
I'd feel terrible if I made someone pay for everything.
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In my experience I have consistently ran into this issue with women meeting 2 main criterion.
1. Foreign
2. Fine as hell
I think the major reason for this is cultural experience, I won't get into specific countries but some women I have dated, you could tell they had men buying them plane tickets, living rent free, and copping extravagances.
I'll give two examples:
First chick was in college; Slavic woman with a mean body, she was older than me by a few years so she loved to try and talk down to a dude. I let it slide for several reasons, but mostly I just didn't care at that age. We were not exclusive but had been dating for around 10 months off and on, Randomly she hits me up out the blue on a November night talking about "I went to the LV store, and I put a purse on hold under your name that I like, I'd like it for Christmas present"
Had me looking at my phone like
So of course I play along with it hit her with the "Sure babe, the one downtown right?" Hung up the phone and never talked to her again.
Second example was a female from the middle east, nothing against Persian woman, but some can be entitled to say the least. I remember this girl I dated in college was living in Dubai, and we start talking for a bit long distance a few years back. So I'm asking when she was coming back to town, and she starts "joking" about coming as soon as I pay for her ticket. What do I do? Play along of course, continue talking for a few days, until she keeps asking and won't drop it. Finally I say, I checked the rates online, and she asks what I think? I say I think the prices range from I'm not the one, to no chance in hell. Thankfully we never talked again.
America is the greatest country on earth for a multitude of reasons, but mostly being we don't have to prescribe to dated normative social contracts regarding money and attraction. Most women like this stand out like a sore thumb because they are single, and have standards that are unrealistic due to past relationships. So you had a man that bought you LV? Should have cashed out, don't expect ME to. Problem with these women is that they expect wife status without offering anything in return, to make matters worse, there are men out there giving in to these demands.
1. Foreign
2. Fine as hell
I think the major reason for this is cultural experience, I won't get into specific countries but some women I have dated, you could tell they had men buying them plane tickets, living rent free, and copping extravagances.
I'll give two examples:
First chick was in college; Slavic woman with a mean body, she was older than me by a few years so she loved to try and talk down to a dude. I let it slide for several reasons, but mostly I just didn't care at that age. We were not exclusive but had been dating for around 10 months off and on, Randomly she hits me up out the blue on a November night talking about "I went to the LV store, and I put a purse on hold under your name that I like, I'd like it for Christmas present"
Had me looking at my phone like
So of course I play along with it hit her with the "Sure babe, the one downtown right?" Hung up the phone and never talked to her again.
Second example was a female from the middle east, nothing against Persian woman, but some can be entitled to say the least. I remember this girl I dated in college was living in Dubai, and we start talking for a bit long distance a few years back. So I'm asking when she was coming back to town, and she starts "joking" about coming as soon as I pay for her ticket. What do I do? Play along of course, continue talking for a few days, until she keeps asking and won't drop it. Finally I say, I checked the rates online, and she asks what I think? I say I think the prices range from I'm not the one, to no chance in hell. Thankfully we never talked again.
America is the greatest country on earth for a multitude of reasons, but mostly being we don't have to prescribe to dated normative social contracts regarding money and attraction. Most women like this stand out like a sore thumb because they are single, and have standards that are unrealistic due to past relationships. So you had a man that bought you LV? Should have cashed out, don't expect ME to. Problem with these women is that they expect wife status without offering anything in return, to make matters worse, there are men out there giving in to these demands.
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Im not a simp or a trick
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seems Iike there's a mixed bag in here..
to the guy that says pay for everything in the first 6 months how do you get her out of that expectation?
6 months is a Iong time to sit on your ***
to the guy that says pay for everything in the first 6 months how do you get her out of that expectation?
6 months is a Iong time to sit on your ***
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This guy explained it really good
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I love this!
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Had a broad tell me to bring her some food and a blunt, I laughed in her face. Women got the game ****** up, it would be different if we was smashing or she had done something similar for me, but that aint the case. These women will treat you how you allow them to. I usually lay down some rules when we first chill to combat this
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the thing with all you dudes who think you gotta pay for everything, you all have a similar tone. like paying for dates and bills and all that entitles you to something. entitles you to yambs or cooking/cleaning/laundry etc. whatever you feel entitled to you, feel that way because you've provided financially. imo that's not a relationship, that's a transaction. you can get a maid or hooker for that. shorty should wanna be with you cause she digs you as a person not because she sees you as a meal ticket.
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bump
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I don't agree with these societal standards but it is what it is.
You either gotta be special or conform.
You either gotta be special or conform.
