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Originally Posted by versache530
i'm not saying that they are illegitimate degrees, i'm saying that most of the people that major in them don't do anything with them. me and my girls are out there doing something with what we went to school for. that's all i'm saying.
any yes, a lot of "doin it" chicks are busted. me an my girls aren't busted, by any means. now i'm not gonna front and act like we are all dimes, but we are not busted. 7's and 8's. the point of my OP was to say that a lot of men just don't measure up. and unreachable standards don't have anything to do with it. all we meet are men that want to come live with us, want to use our cars, or don't want to spend the money to take us out. how about having your own home? not saying you have to be a home owner, but have somewhere that is yours. men think spending money to take a girl out is absurd in this day and age. i spend money to take myself out, so why can't you? that's my lifestyle, so if we are together, it's crazy for me to take a step back because said guy doesnt want to get with the program. i don't sit in the house when i'm not involved, so why should i do it because im dealing with you and you don't think i'm worth spending money on. if i'm not worth it, then why are you with me? and i'm not the type of chick that expects lavish gifts or to be taken out 3 or 4 times a week. but every night can't be a blockbuster night. i'm sorry. and i know someone is gonna say that it's gold digger thinking but really it's not. i say that if you can't do for me what i can do for myself, then i don't need you.
and it's not so much about money. a relationship is 50/50. people think that 50/50 means everything is split down the middle but that's not the case. not we take turns buying dinner, or take turns washing the dishes. NO. it means you play your role and i play mine to make up 100% of the relationship. for example. if we are married or living together: i have no problem cooking, washing the dishes, cleaning up, washing clothes, doing the ironing, buying groceries etc. that's what a woman does. but a man has to take out the trash, cut some grass, pay the majority of the bills, fix stuff. Why? because i'm doing everything else. i'm doing what a woman is supposed to do. and if a man that i'm with doesn't like that, then we need to discuss it and work something else out.
a man's role is to protect and provide. but SOME men want to only do the latter when it's convenient for them to do so. if you are the man and are the head of the household, then be that. i have no problem with that. i can submit. but not when a man wants to pick and choose which head of the houshold duties he wants to take on.
im interested in y'alls thoughts. discuss........
Originally Posted by versache530
Originally Posted by I AM THAT DUDE
More typical NT chauvinist bs, and ironically most of it comes from black men. You know black women graduate college at a 12% higher clip, right? You can further add incarceration rates, graduation, and unemployment and it would seem likely that there must be positive women out there. Or we can be antisocial, chauvinist, prone to lying weirdos who struggle with the opposite sex and blame it on them rather than look inward, or just pursue perfect white women.
Word. ^
me and all my girls are some bad bisshes. college degrees. i'm talking logistics, finance, information systems, business mgmt. not art or dance or history. legitimate degrees. all home owners making 70+. humble, down to earth. nice looking, drive nice cars.
but yet we can't find men that we are equally yoked with. and no, we aren't stuck up !*!@@#.so if you guys are all that you say you are, you all must be hanging with the wrong crowd if you can't find a quality girl. if there are so many good dudes out there, then why can't we seem to find them. like ^ said, yall need to step back and take a look at yourselves. maybe you all just don't measure up.
i'm just sayin.......
Originally Posted by scshift
Originally Posted by versache530
i'm not saying that they are illegitimate degrees, i'm saying that most of the people that major in them don't do anything with them. me and my girls are out there doing something with what we went to school for. that's all i'm saying.
any yes, a lot of "doin it" chicks are busted. me an my girls aren't busted, by any means. now i'm not gonna front and act like we are all dimes, but we are not busted. 7's and 8's. the point of my OP was to say that a lot of men just don't measure up. and unreachable standards don't have anything to do with it. all we meet are men that want to come live with us, want to use our cars, or don't want to spend the money to take us out. how about having your own home? not saying you have to be a home owner, but have somewhere that is yours. men think spending money to take a girl out is absurd in this day and age. i spend money to take myself out, so why can't you? that's my lifestyle, so if we are together, it's crazy for me to take a step back because said guy doesnt want to get with the program. i don't sit in the house when i'm not involved, so why should i do it because im dealing with you and you don't think i'm worth spending money on. if i'm not worth it, then why are you with me? and i'm not the type of chick that expects lavish gifts or to be taken out 3 or 4 times a week. but every night can't be a blockbuster night. i'm sorry. and i know someone is gonna say that it's gold digger thinking but really it's not. i say that if you can't do for me what i can do for myself, then i don't need you.
and it's not so much about money. a relationship is 50/50. people think that 50/50 means everything is split down the middle but that's not the case. not we take turns buying dinner, or take turns washing the dishes. NO. it means you play your role and i play mine to make up 100% of the relationship. for example. if we are married or living together: i have no problem cooking, washing the dishes, cleaning up, washing clothes, doing the ironing, buying groceries etc. that's what a woman does. but a man has to take out the trash, cut some grass, pay the majority of the bills, fix stuff. Why? because i'm doing everything else. i'm doing what a woman is supposed to do. and if a man that i'm with doesn't like that, then we need to discuss it and work something else out.
a man's role is to protect and provide. but SOME men want to only do the latter when it's convenient for them to do so. if you are the man and are the head of the household, then be that. i have no problem with that. i can submit. but not when a man wants to pick and choose which head of the houshold duties he wants to take on.
im interested in y'alls thoughts. discuss........
Alright here we go.
So let me get this straight. You have a college degree, have a home, have a car, and make over $70,000. That part is fact. No arguing there. Now you also say you are attractive (7 or 8 is attractive), and you are humble and down to earth. If you really have all these qualities, and you still can't get a "decent" guy, then something isn't adding up. Which means it's either on your attractiveness or your attitude. I'm not going to doubt your appearance, if you're attractive and you know it, you know it.
What I think the issue is, is with your attitude. Tell me, why is it only chumps are approaching you? Because if these really are chumps, then something must be up with you. You must come across as easy, or "their type". But I doubt it. Something tells me that these are normal people approaching you, but you blow them off cause they don't fit your standard.
Here's something you should think about: If only losers are coming to you, why aren't any "good" men coming up to you? Step back and look at yourself. If I'm playing hoops and all the kids who suck want me on their team, yet all the real ballers don't, what does that say about ME?
But like I said, I don't think you're only being approached by scrubs. Here's why: You basically just laid out an entire game plan that you expect the man to follow. You have your demands and you aren't about to compromise on any of them. Basically, you're calling the shots. And guess what? No man wants to enter a relationship where he's obeying the chicks' demands down to a T. If you want to bring up traditional gender roles into your relationship, then how about you include the one where the man is the ruler of the house? If the man is expected to do this and this, then remember that back in the old days the man was the one calling the shots and you there to obey him.
Relationships are about compromise. If you enter a relationship demanding that all these things be done, no one is going to stick around.
Based on YOUR description, you're the perfect woman. You're attractive, humble and have your material game set. Most men would do anything for that. But if men aren't coming to you, maybe you aren't as perfect as you're making yourself sound.
Originally Posted by scshift
Originally Posted by versache530
i'm not saying that they are illegitimate degrees, i'm saying that most of the people that major in them don't do anything with them. me and my girls are out there doing something with what we went to school for. that's all i'm saying.
Alright here we go.
Originally Posted by versache530
did you read my entire post. i said, i have no problem with the man being the head. i am willing to let him be that. but he is going to have to BE THAT. and not pick and choose when it's convinent. in the mean time, yes, i'm gonna do me.
and no, i NEVER said i was perfect, but i do know what i have going from me. attitude is not an issue. i'm the most cool, calm, and collected person you could ever meet. i get along with the majority of people. both men and women. that's not an issue.
i was planning on coming back and typing a different message until i read your response. I would like to know what's up with men being intimidated by women that are "doin it"? i've heard this several times by guys that are friends. when i speak to them on the subject, they say men are intimidated by women like me. what's up with that. so i ask, so you want a chick that doesn't have herself together? you all want a chick working at mcdonalds? the response i get is: as long as she is working towards something then that's cool. so my question is you all like a work in progress? so once she has made it, then you all get intimidated? give me some insight on that please. or is this not true at all?
and no, not only scrubs come up to me. in the mix you have: men that are fine and know it, so they don't think they have to do anything. they think i'm supposed to be all on their tip just because they are fine. obese and out of shape but i drive a benz (like i care). mr. player who wants me to be one of many. and i'll be honest. i am tall, so that does become a factor for me at least. i can't say the same for my friends. so some guys might be cool but they are 5'6. i mean, you dont have to be 6'5", but damn....
compared to some other people i know, my standards aren't so high. this one chick i know, she says for a man to marry her, she needs 5 carats, a condo in downtown Atlanta, and a range rover. and she is dead serious. my standards are no where near that, so come up with some other reasons. i'm interested in what you have to say.
Originally Posted by 4Shoposite
If you are making 70gs a year...great car, educated, good attitude...you can't be that great looking. Common denominate that equation. You make Meagan Goode an everyday girl...not famous at all...give that chick a 70k salary, great whip, college diploma, and a good attitude...this chick would get a cat to marry her 5 times if he could.
Originally Posted by MPLSdunk
ya'll act like 70k is so unreachable. jeezus have some motivation.
Man come to Atlanta, so many superficial women. City is being over ran by 2 types of women. You got the Nicki Minaj created character %%+++$, that don't work, just hop sugar daddy to sugar daddy. then you got your "I`m independent" Stuck up "My daddy paid for me to go to Spelman outta pocket" chicks that whip BMWs, that give the exterior presentation that they are on it, but mentally are loony.Originally Posted by ATGD7154xBBxMZ
Yeah, probably about a dozen. More if I sought them out.
Where do you live where you've become so cynical or that there are so few ppl around you that are actually genuinely positive, nice, and sets a good example, where you can hold a balanced conversation with them?
Originally Posted by cguy610
Yea, I know a good amount of them, but that doesn't mean they are all quality women. Positive as far as having jobs and stuff, but some are jumpoffs/have issues/attitudes/etc.
I've only met a few great women in my lifetime. I can count them on one hand.