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im going through the same dilema just the other day some radom chick grabed me and all i could think about was smashing it but at the same time i dont wanna domy girl like that.....but the [()] is tempting
ââââââ To all my male NT'ers in committed relationships: How do ya'll stay committed? â
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That's a good point.
I've been with my girl for over 7 years. There have been a few close calls as far as cheating and I've certainly thought about it. But I've foundthat at the end of the day, no P is worth losing what I have with my girl. And besides, I've found that masturbating while thinking about that chick yousaw at Target with a nice fatty is a lot better than actually doing it. Know why? B/c in the fantasy she does ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you want her to do withno complaints.
But really, the only way to get to this point is to find a woman who you love, have great chemistry with, who complements you, and is someone who you caneasily see spending the rest of your life with. Don't know how common this is, but my girl does/says things all the time that (sappy as this may sound)make my heart feel warm.
Once you find all that, you'll find that it will be easy to stay committed.
And remember, despite all of that, it's not always easy or fun. There will be fights, arguments, etc., but what's important is how you resolve them andbounce back. Remember: EVERY girl is going to bring you some sort of grief or have some issues you have to deal with. The only reason that girl you see atTarget/the mall/etc. looks perfect is b/c you don't know her.
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Then you know a lot of people who shouldn't be in relationships.
I love it when people project "the people they know" onto all people in that group.
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Wait....what?!?! (Can't tell if you are joking or not).Originally Posted by freddymartinez
yes it is
IMHO, that is something that should be defined by you and your girl. Though I suppose it also depends on your religion also (I'm positive that certainbranches of Christianity feel this way).
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I always go to different places with my girlfriend and we always try different things. And it also doesn't hurt that we're both funny as hell and wecrack alot of jokes at each other or together.
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Originally Posted by randyoss
That's a good point.
I've been with my girl for over 7 years. There have been a few close calls as far as cheating and I've certainly thought about it. But I've found that at the end of the day, no P is worth losing what I have with my girl. And besides, I've found that masturbating while thinking about that chick you saw at Target with a nice fatty is a lot better than actually doing it. Know why? B/c in the fantasy she does ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you want her to do with no complaints.Just try that with a real woman.(And if they do, I don't even want to know what kind of things they've done, or *shudder* have!)
But really, the only way to get to this point is to find a woman who you love, have great chemistry with, who complements you, and is someone who you can easily see spending the rest of your life with. Don't know how common this is, but my girl does/says things all the time that (sappy as this may sound) make my heart feel warm.
Once you find all that, you'll find that it will be easy to stay committed.
And remember, despite all of that, it's not always easy or fun. There will be fights, arguments, etc., but what's important is how you resolve them and bounce back. Remember: EVERY girl is going to bring you some sort of grief or have some issues you have to deal with. The only reason that girl you see at Target/the mall/etc. looks perfect is b/c you don't know her.
So your saying Fantasizing is better than the real P;
Dog you on some Final Fantasy steez; just a quick question do you like video games?
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Originally Posted by 951guero
Originally Posted by randyoss
That's a good point.
I've been with my girl for over 7 years. There have been a few close calls as far as cheating and I've certainly thought about it. But I've found that at the end of the day, no P is worth losing what I have with my girl. And besides, I've found that masturbating while thinking about that chick you saw at Target with a nice fatty is a lot better than actually doing it. Know why? B/c in the fantasy she does ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you want her to do with no complaints.Just try that with a real woman.(And if they do, I don't even want to know what kind of things they've done, or *shudder* have!)
But really, the only way to get to this point is to find a woman who you love, have great chemistry with, who complements you, and is someone who you can easily see spending the rest of your life with. Don't know how common this is, but my girl does/says things all the time that (sappy as this may sound) make my heart feel warm.
Once you find all that, you'll find that it will be easy to stay committed.
And remember, despite all of that, it's not always easy or fun. There will be fights, arguments, etc., but what's important is how you resolve them and bounce back. Remember: EVERY girl is going to bring you some sort of grief or have some issues you have to deal with. The only reason that girl you see at Target/the mall/etc. looks perfect is b/c you don't know her.
So your saying Fantasizing is better than the real P;
Dog you on some Final Fantasy steez; just a quick question do you like video games?
I get plenty of real P from the woman I love. But that's not the point, which you clearly do not grasp. OP was asking about how guys stay in committedrelationships w/o cheating. I simply offered up one way of dealing with thoughts of cheating. And yes, sometimes imagined P is better than real (mainly in thiscase). For instance, do you still feel imagined P is not better than real P if the woman you want to sleep with has AIDS? Yeah, didn't think so.
Quick question: are you in a committed relationship that is longer than 7 years?
Edit for clarity.
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DELETED - double post (yuku was acting up).Originally Posted by 951guero
Originally Posted by randyoss
That's a good point.
I've been with my girl for over 7 years. There have been a few close calls as far as cheating and I've certainly thought about it. But I've found that at the end of the day, no P is worth losing what I have with my girl. And besides, I've found that masturbating while thinking about that chick you saw at Target with a nice fatty is a lot better than actually doing it. Know why? B/c in the fantasy she does ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you want her to do with no complaints.Just try that with a real woman.(And if they do, I don't even want to know what kind of things they've done, or *shudder* have!)
But really, the only way to get to this point is to find a woman who you love, have great chemistry with, who complements you, and is someone who you can easily see spending the rest of your life with. Don't know how common this is, but my girl does/says things all the time that (sappy as this may sound) make my heart feel warm.
Once you find all that, you'll find that it will be easy to stay committed.
And remember, despite all of that, it's not always easy or fun. There will be fights, arguments, etc., but what's important is how you resolve them and bounce back. Remember: EVERY girl is going to bring you some sort of grief or have some issues you have to deal with. The only reason that girl you see at Target/the mall/etc. looks perfect is b/c you don't know her.
So your saying Fantasizing is better than the real P;
Dog you on some Final Fantasy steez; just a quick question do you like video games?
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you obviously have not found a good chick yet
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Originally Posted by randyoss
Then you know a lot of people who shouldn't be in relationships.
I love it when people project "the people they know" onto all people in that group.
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Yeah, but for that group only. It doesn't apply to ALL people in committed relationships. If you meant the former, then I apologize.Originally Posted by vrp32tl
Originally Posted by randyoss
Then you know a lot of people who shouldn't be in relationships.
I love it when people project "the people they know" onto all people in that group.
Well if everyone that group tells you they've cheated @ one time or another doesn't it make it true?
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communcation & trust.
you dont have that in a realtionship, you dont have anything
you dont have that in a realtionship, you dont have anything
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Put your head down when you see something you like and be thankful for what you already have
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other girls are so annoying it doesnt seem worth it.
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You gotta make sure u never get caught cuz its cheaper to keep her...REAL TALK...
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Your statement was pointless. exit the thread immediately.Originally Posted by 951guero
Originally Posted by randyoss
That's a good point.
I've been with my girl for over 7 years. There have been a few close calls as far as cheating and I've certainly thought about it. But I've found that at the end of the day, no P is worth losing what I have with my girl. And besides, I've found that masturbating while thinking about that chick you saw at Target with a nice fatty is a lot better than actually doing it. Know why? B/c in the fantasy she does ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you want her to do with no complaints.Just try that with a real woman.(And if they do, I don't even want to know what kind of things they've done, or *shudder* have!)
But really, the only way to get to this point is to find a woman who you love, have great chemistry with, who complements you, and is someone who you can easily see spending the rest of your life with. Don't know how common this is, but my girl does/says things all the time that (sappy as this may sound) make my heart feel warm.
Once you find all that, you'll find that it will be easy to stay committed.
And remember, despite all of that, it's not always easy or fun. There will be fights, arguments, etc., but what's important is how you resolve them and bounce back. Remember: EVERY girl is going to bring you some sort of grief or have some issues you have to deal with. The only reason that girl you see at Target/the mall/etc. looks perfect is b/c you don't know her.
So your saying Fantasizing is better than the real P;
Dog you on some Final Fantasy steez; just a quick question do you like video games?
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I've heard this before; my ex used to say he "invested" way too much in me already.
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Originally Posted by KayCurrency
"Committed" and "relationship" cant be in the same sentence when it comes to "males"
...And we play the "double standard" card as much as we can......Shame on us
Females are different?
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When I WAS in a committed relationship, I just felt that no other lady could treat me as good or better than she did. Same box never bothered me as much as itwould for some, box can change people so I tried to stay cool with it, but I stayed faithful. I soon learned that, as much time and effort you put into aperson(I'm talking years), in the blink of an eye things can and will change.
The committment is alright if you realize that everyday is not promised, so valuing the time with that person that does so much for you is a priority.
but we all know what hormones can do just from a glance
The committment is alright if you realize that everyday is not promised, so valuing the time with that person that does so much for you is a priority.
but we all know what hormones can do just from a glance
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Originally Posted by milestailsprowe
Originally Posted by KayCurrency
"Committed" and "relationship" cant be in the same sentence when it comes to "males"
...And we play the "double standard" card as much as we can......Shame on us
Females are different?
Yeah...Sex is a more emotional event for MOST women, Even Kissing.....Men just dont care....
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my relashionship is turning sour....its been bad since the beginning and now things are just getting worse. if i could turn back time i wouldnt smash it.
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In my experience, getting sex in a committed long-term relationship is all emotional for women. Meaning if a woman isn't happy emotionally(like if she feels you're not doing enough in the relationship (housework, chores, etc.)), you're not getting it.Originally Posted by KayCurrency
Originally Posted by milestailsprowe
Originally Posted by KayCurrency
"Committed" and "relationship" cant be in the same sentence when it comes to "males"
...And we play the "double standard" card as much as we can......Shame on us
Females are different?
Yeah...Sex is a more emotional event for MOST women, Even Kissing.....Men just dont care....
If you're with a woman you truly love and care about, then you'll do your best to make sure she's happy. As I heard once "happy wife = happylife".
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pimpin aint easy, some guys just settle for whatever they have