Dropten wrote:
My turn offs are what it is. Aint gonna change.
How you suppsed to convince a world there's a war if you dont blow up a couple of buildings?
Basically, if you want the full effect, you need to take the right steps to make it happen.
If that involves me putting these women on a pedestal, then thats what I have to do to get the feeling im looking for.
the only reason you are doing this, is because you don't know how to maintain a real relationship.
it's a cop out. it's a way to deter yourself from the pain you felt when your relationship went stale with your ex.
Its not healthy to "love for the weekend". you obviously do not learn/or grow from it.
Ask yourself do you think it's healthy? the reason why you made this topic is because deep down you're
looking for approval to see if your actions are acceptable or not. if you have doubt in yourself, then
there's obviously something wrong with how you are approaching things.
Im not hurt the relationship with an ex went stale. Not at all.
I do know how to maintain a relationship, but I dont want to maintain a relationship. Ive actually been married for 4 years.
Do I think its healthy? Dudes out there doing the same thing I do, but to smash. Wine and dine a woman just for the P then bounce.
I do the same, I just dont want the P out of it.
Whats unhealthy about it is, hurting these women. Other than that, what Im doing is fine in my book.
I think you guys are having a hard time comprehending "dine and dash" cause your so accustomed to "smash and dash"
Ya'll dudes just think with your *+$!%, but theres more out there than just a nut.
But it's like ur friend zoned, u put the time effort and money in and u go home and jerk off....
I dont need to go home and jerk off. I can get P almost at anytime.
Im a pretty decent looking guy
Lightweight Champion wrote:
My man you're not looking for that beginning bliss of the relationship, because the beginning always feels like perfection. That's what you're really looking for, perfection. But there isn't a woman (or man) who is born perfect, we all have flaws and blemishes. What makes (successful, happy) married couples think they've found their soulmates or the "perfect match" is that they were able to look past the imperfections and accept their significant others for who they are and not trying to change them.
If you can't get past seeing slight flaws then you, my friend, are unfortunately the epitome of #foreveralone
For the most part, the beginning of the relationship is perfect. Yall dudes dont love that feeling of when you meet someone and your just so intrigued and so capitivated by them? I just love being around beautiful, funny, intelligent women.
Look at this woman NT. Aint she just beautiful? How can you not fall in love? And shes such a sweetheart
And there's so many other beautiful women out there just like her. I dont want to miss an oppertunity to capture some of their essence.
Im not going to sit here and pretend I dont have a "problem". My "problem" is just not accepted by society. But society doesnt define me.
I make the choice of the lifestyle I like to live.
Being married for those years I experienced alot of things that are not socially acceptable. Like going to swingers events and clubs. Though our thing wasnt to full swap with other couples, there were many who did. Its kind of hard to swallow the thought of married couples right next to each other having sex with someone else. But thats what they are into and it will probably never be accepted by society.
Yes, im wrong for not being upfront with these women with what my intensions are. But you have to understand its kind of difficult for people in general to understand the concept. I thought cutting these women off after a couple of dates would prevent them from getting hurt, but I messed up this time.
And even though im defending my actions
I do regret it. Im just stuck at what direction I should take right now. Its addicting.