How do you TELL your girlfriend she's not your #1 priority? UPDATE: Broken Up

[T Lo Sweater]

but if you ask me shes nothin but a basty money hungry unclassy *** happy jackie

 

[PRIME]

"I took a risk with you and I want us to work"- MJ to Kwame Brown.

I'm saying. Like Kobe to Smush Parker or something..

 

[jay6jay]

It took you 3 years to figure out that one didnt work now its taking you 6 years to figure out if this one will

Ok

 

[Mark Antony]

It took you 3 years to figure out that one didnt work now its taking you 6 years to figure out if this one will

Ok

Damn that is like 9 yrs wasted. Multiple flings/ casual relationships would've taught you a lot more about yourself than that, and would lead you to someone long term you're sure of.

 

[Deleted member 38307]

That's ridiculous man....

End it.

 

[mugen81]

FDB-Young Dro
Problem Solved

 

[jumpmanpro97]

Damn that is like 9 yrs wasted. Multiple flings/ casual relationships would've taught you a lot more about yourself than that, and would lead you to someone long term you're sure of.

not really wasted maybe the 3 year one was, but the current one I've been with for 6 years is going to get the ring probably by the end of year. That 3 year ex I was sounding like OP "just kept it going since I invested so much time into it already." Which was a mistake it should have ended sooner. Just curious how long do you guys consider serious relationships? Mark Anthony & Jay6jay are you guys married?

It took you 3 years to figure out that one didnt work now its taking you 6 years to figure out if this one will

Ok

we've been together for 6 years because it works, she's getting wifed up. Advice to the OP if it doesn't work don't try to prolong it

 

[mr marcus]

Y'all been together 2 years and she's comparing you to her ex? You're a better man then me...I would've been checked her ***

 

[yeah]

you ain't know?

relationships played out and so is personal preference.

monogamy is a beta male desire.

Monogamy is not a beta male desire. Monogamy is a matter of preference.



















...And I prefer not to be monogamous. But, seriously. It's all about who you cross paths with in life. Some girls make you want to stay with 'em, and you might just mess up a good thing by venturing out into the wild.

 

[hennessy]

I personally disagree with relationships in college being dumb. In your later years, there's nothing wrong with it. I know a few cats that are married to their girlfriends from college. Better than playing the field as an adult in the real world.

I said COMMITTED relationship in college is dumb. ESPECIALLY if you aren't even on campus with the girl.

I mean if you find a girl you think is good then ride it out with her for a bit and when you guys graduate and if you're in the same area give it a shot. But why get into something serious and committed when you don't even know where you will be working/living when you graduate?

A committed relationship can't work if you don't even live in the same place IMO. I was seeing one chick primarily my whole senior year but she knew we weren't official. I would hookup with other girls too but she didn't have to know about it. Just needed to know that we weren't an item and we were just friends. She stayed true though and was only seeing me. Her friends always called me an ******* for not being her bf but why would I? Only had four years of college to live it up I wasn't wasting it dealing with a chicks problems like OP is right now. I'm actually dating that girl now though. She told me she loved me when school ended and wanted to be with me. She moved to where I lived. And that's when I started dating her because she showed me something real. But you think I am dumb enough to date one chick in college?

simp behavior.

Trust me. I've had girls with boyfriends come onto me and invite me back to their place to smash when I was in college. One girl even invited me back a few more times too. Guess what? She's still dating that simp from college and he has no idea it happened. Call me a scumbag if you want but I didn't initiate it at all. If a sexy girl wants to smash in college I'm not gonna feel bad for her bf because he clearly made a poor decision being COMMITTED to a girl like that when she wasn't committed to him. But hey, maybe he was smashing other girls at his college behind her back too.

 

[heliumclinton]

Different strokes for different folks

I know too many of college friends who stuck it out with their college gf and they're still together. Some dudes like relationships, some don't .. doesn't mean it's dumb.

 

[hennessy]

Different strokes for different folks

I know too many of college friends who stuck it out with their college gf and they're still together. Some dudes like relationships, some don't .. doesn't mean it's dumb.

Well in OPs case it sounds dumb as hell. Look at the thread title...this girl is not his #1 priority. And she doesn't even seem to respect him. Dude needs to end it.

 

[Mark Antony]

Different strokes for different folks


I know too many of college friends who stuck it out with their college gf and they're still together. Some dudes like relationships, some don't .. doesn't mean it's dumb.

Well in OPs case it sounds dumb as hell. Look at the thread title...this girl is not his #1 priority. And she doesn't even seem to respect him. Dude needs to end it.

Yes please end it, she's not the one for you, not right now atleast. Ya'll both have some maturing to do.

 

[jthagreat]

OP, can i get an update?

I am very disappointed...VERY

I would have thought it was an episode of Punk'd or something...

+taken aback+

 

[rell826]

P4L. Seems like a few people took what I said the wrong way. That essay was unnecessary.

 

[fresh out dabox]

if shes getting on your nerves
then tell that girl to curve
word to killa

 

[phen0m]

Not gonna lie being that 40+ single guy in the club scares the living **** outta me.

Then dont goto the club at 40? I have a friend who is 42, a personal trainer.. and bags chicks like there no tomorrow. Off the street, in stores etc. A club is not the end all/be all.

 

[keel252]

Then dont goto the club at 40? I have a friend who is 42, a personal trainer.. and bags chicks like there no tomorrow. Off the street, in stores etc. A club is not the end all/be all.

thats the thing i dont want to be bagging chicks at the club at 40+...if i go to the club 40+, i want it to be with my wife or my down as chick. Not still in the streets chasing buns.

 

[T Lo Sweater]

Op i hope you arent in a relationship with her

Too many people come on here about girl problems, when the girl is clearly bonkers

Ignore our advice and stay with her. Dont be like that

 

[girlslovewaffles]

Then dont goto the club at 40? I have a friend who is 42, a personal trainer.. and bags chicks like there no tomorrow. Off the street, in stores etc. A club is not the end all/be all.

thats the thing i dont want to be bagging chicks at the club at 40+...if i go to the club 40+, i want it to be with my wife or my down as chick. Not still in the streets chasing buns.

If you're 40+ and going to clubs, regardless of who, I feel bad for you.

 

[keel252]

So 40+ people can't throw parties or any celebrations at the club now?


Stop it

 

[girlslovewaffles]

So 40+ people can't throw parties or any celebrations at the club now?


Stop it

You can do whatever you want.

I only said that I feel sad for the people who do.

 

[quincy powell]

And on another note while its fresh in my head. Some dudes allow these girls to walk all over them.

A friend of mines younger brother played in some Mexican mariachi band in Texas thay would travel state to state and perform quite a lot of places and he was pretty talented. (You would think he would swimming in the Latina yambz due to his situation but no he's a simp)

He got with this girl. Pretty face, decent body but a dime a dozen with no job or desire to find one and not even a high school ged, especially for someone in his position where he was making decent $$ off that performing money. About 3 months in the relationship he quit the band so he could work more (aka spend more time with his girl). Dude would buy her everything she wanted, would pay for her and her homegirls tabs when they would go out to eat and drink. He was buying her jewelry just because. He would like and comment all her FB pics, his default and cover photo were him and her together and most his posts would be about them or pics of them.

I noticed but didn't think much of it at the time that she would rarerly like or respond to those posts or pics and would minamily respond to his lovey dovey comments he left on her page. I didn't chill with them on a regular basis like that but I could tell his was way more into her then she was into him. She had no pics of him on her page either.

Fast forward a year later and he changes his pic to just him and said that she deactivated her FB and that they were on a "break" but they were getting married and he was engaged to her. In actuality her page was up she just blocked him and all his family on there.

Next thing you know they have some huge argument and she sent him a video of her topping some dude off while wearing the anniversary necklace he got her and she drank his kids.

Dude was heartbroken but I think he because a man from it because I've noticed he's been treating women alot more like how most of them should be treated going off how they act.

Jesus.

 

[Sir San Diego]

40 at the club is a dusty look. I'm 35, in good shape and attract younger women and I still would feel like a creep for hanging out in a club at my age. Not saying someone else shouldn't do it, but what's the point? Jumping from chick to chick got stale in my 20's.

 

[fontaine]

So 40+ people can't throw parties or any celebrations at the club now?


Stop it

true story...

cats acting like once you hit 35, you have to stay inside all night.

as if there arent clubs tailored to older people...

everybody... once you hit 40, you have to stay inside. forever.