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Is it normal for a guy and girl that are just friends to say they like each other?
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This will be a rant.In all honestly this is the story of my life. I'm guessing some of you guys don't have many 'girl' friends that you don't think about smashing. A lot of my friends have thought twice about me because of situations I'm in. Almost half of my friends are girls, I hang out with them a lot almost to the point where in public and theres times where in public if either of us is getting hit on and we obviously don't like the person and the dude/girl can't take a hint, we step and slide in and say "hey baby how's it going, who's this?" and act as a "bf/gf" in front of the scumbag Eve/Steve. we don't c-block each other, or it hasn't happened yet.
Some of their boyfriends like/want that I do this, some never find out. my girlfriends have always understood because I tell them ahead of time.
I've had times when my G F's get real close to me to an emotional level but we never pull the trigger. Once I did pull the trigger and had sex but it didn't lead to anything plus i hate her now for something that witch did.
Another time I had no initial attraction to this friend, and we were talking in a group of well known friends like 2 dudes(including me) and 8 girls about sex, girl said "I never hear what your gf's say about you in the bed" quick witted and the funny guy I am i said "only one way to really know
" she says "alright lets do it" I didn't think she was serious but we left our friends, did the good deed and first thing the next day to her friends she goes "yeah he's great" Had me like
in our crew for days.
a problem though is prolly my best girl friend is slowly showing feelings of attraction. recently me, her, call her J, celebrated another friend R's B-day, dinner bar blah blah blah end of the day were watching TV at the house and talking, I jokingly bring up that we should smoke for R's b-day, J goes "no by BF doesn't want me to", R goes I've never smoked and don't want to. later in the night i see J texting and getting upset inside more and more. J brings up option to smoke still even saying "just you and me alone". I covered up saying I don't even have any on me and would be hard to get a hold on my boy at this time. watching Glee later something comes up and J goes "I love glee but bf never lets me watch this,that and you let me do those things." then she hits me with the "M4rioL your really cool..." the way she said it me and R shot each other the "the eff are you going with this?" look.
I've had times when my G F's get real close to me to an emotional level but we never pull the trigger. Once I did pull the trigger and had sex but it didn't lead to anything plus i hate her now for something that witch did.
Another time I had no initial attraction to this friend, and we were talking in a group of well known friends like 2 dudes(including me) and 8 girls about sex, girl said "I never hear what your gf's say about you in the bed" quick witted and the funny guy I am i said "only one way to really know
a problem though is prolly my best girl friend is slowly showing feelings of attraction. recently me, her, call her J, celebrated another friend R's B-day, dinner bar blah blah blah end of the day were watching TV at the house and talking, I jokingly bring up that we should smoke for R's b-day, J goes "no by BF doesn't want me to", R goes I've never smoked and don't want to. later in the night i see J texting and getting upset inside more and more. J brings up option to smoke still even saying "just you and me alone". I covered up saying I don't even have any on me and would be hard to get a hold on my boy at this time. watching Glee later something comes up and J goes "I love glee but bf never lets me watch this,that and you let me do those things." then she hits me with the "M4rioL your really cool..." the way she said it me and R shot each other the "the eff are you going with this?" look.
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RIP to your relationship fam
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Originally Posted by Ruxxx
Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican
The fact that females are so clueless to this really frustrates me at times. Either they don't know, don't show, or act like they don't know.
A+ post.
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Yeah, in the head of a girl it's possible.
Lets be honest know fellas, I don't know any dudes who frequently hang out with the same few girls a lot, without dating, that don't have any intentions of one day blowing her back out.
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EXACTLY. she's over there saying "i didn't see it that way with him,for me its all friendship" "I now understand " Im like are you serious? I know if i was him id be in the back of my head wanting to smash any chance i could. How can you not see that something like that would make any man mad. She's crying calling me telling she's sorry and that for her it wasn't anything like that and for me to try to move on from it cause she loves me more than any other man. I have her Facebook password cause she gave it to me long ago and she deleted all the messages and posts, but I still can't get over that . she keeps saying "its not like i had sex with him" . all i hear is BLAH BLAH BLAH. Thinking about playing the nice guy role ,smashing a few more times then I'm out
It can't be the same as it use to be for me. I could not look past that. and i don't see her the same.
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smh next time get with a ugly @#+!% then.
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Didnt read the thread. so feel free to judge.. but this has to be a college-age relationship.
Every other chick in school, would call my squad their "big brothers" and talk to us about dudes while were chillin and doing whatever. A few of these women I still keep in contact with, and have been introduced as "their best male friend"(usually along with my shortie being with me)..to the current BF, Husband etc. but there is only maybe a handful that havent been hit.. and thats more due to circumstance and motivation from what i can tell.
In essence.. if she cried at the thought of having a conversation about what had just gone down.. She's beyond guilty. Aside from that.. dont even play into the situation.. either keep her around.. off premises as an occasional stress reliever.. or just slide her off completely and let the next man deal with the BS.
IMO the only reason shes not w/other dude full-time is because he doesnt want her in that capacity. He's eating off of your strength.. youre putting in the work.. he's laidup like a King.. so no need to buy the cow.
Every other chick in school, would call my squad their "big brothers" and talk to us about dudes while were chillin and doing whatever. A few of these women I still keep in contact with, and have been introduced as "their best male friend"(usually along with my shortie being with me)..to the current BF, Husband etc. but there is only maybe a handful that havent been hit.. and thats more due to circumstance and motivation from what i can tell.
In essence.. if she cried at the thought of having a conversation about what had just gone down.. She's beyond guilty. Aside from that.. dont even play into the situation.. either keep her around.. off premises as an occasional stress reliever.. or just slide her off completely and let the next man deal with the BS.
IMO the only reason shes not w/other dude full-time is because he doesnt want her in that capacity. He's eating off of your strength.. youre putting in the work.. he's laidup like a King.. so no need to buy the cow.
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Uglier chicks get more play.
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..and youre still not thinking dude smashed your girlOriginally Posted by dapurplengold213
EXACTLY. she's over there saying "i didn't see it that way with him,for me its all friendship" "I now understand " Im like are you serious? I know if i was him id be in the back of my head wanting to smash any chance i could. How can you not see that something like that would make any man mad. She's crying calling me telling she's sorry and that for her it wasn't anything like that and for me to try to move on from it cause she loves me more than any other man. I have her Facebook password cause she gave it to me long ago and she deleted all the messages and posts, but I still can't get over that . she keeps saying "its not like i had sex with him" . all i hear is BLAH BLAH BLAH. Thinking about playing the nice guy role ,smashing a few more times then I'm out.
It can't be the same as it use to be for me. I could not look past that. and i don't see her the same.
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If she respected you, she wouldn't have done what she did..
As for everyone addressing cap...put the capes away...she'll learn how to play her position at some point in her life
As for everyone addressing cap...put the capes away...she'll learn how to play her position at some point in her life
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For real though you sound mad eager to drop her, like you was just waiting on a reason.
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Sounds more like he never fully trusted her, and his latent fears were realized.. now the sting of being betrayed isnt quite as bad as he thought it'd feel.. so he's trying to use this as an opportunity to drag it out, make an emotional impression and ensure it doesnt happen again moving forward with her.. as they wont be breaking up for good.
Son, I understand what youre feeling in regards to teaching shortie a lesson, but ensure you leave no stone unturned in your quest for the truth. If there is any deceit left uncovered on her part.. she will ever feel as though she put one by you.. and will forever feel she can do it again.
Best of luck.
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Originally Posted by Phen0m
..and youre still not thinking dude smashed your girlOriginally Posted by dapurplengold213
EXACTLY. she's over there saying "i didn't see it that way with him,for me its all friendship" "I now understand " Im like are you serious? I know if i was him id be in the back of my head wanting to smash any chance i could. How can you not see that something like that would make any man mad. She's crying calling me telling she's sorry and that for her it wasn't anything like that and for me to try to move on from it cause she loves me more than any other man. I have her Facebook password cause she gave it to me long ago and she deleted all the messages and posts, but I still can't get over that . she keeps saying "its not like i had sex with him" . all i hear is BLAH BLAH BLAH. Thinking about playing the nice guy role ,smashing a few more times then I'm out.
It can't be the same as it use to be for me. I could not look past that. and i don't see her the same.
i told her she stayed logged in on my tablet (guess she doesn't remember that she gave the password to me) and i confronted her about it and she deleted all the messages because "she cares more about me and he's just a friend." So thats the reason she deleted them .she claims that she will cut ties with him to win me back. I'm like ehhh. don't think i can get back with her the same way like it use to be.
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And to the others who posted this is the second time she's been shady about things. In october she went to a "haunted house" with her girlfriends. I later found out on FB that she was at some block party with her girlfriends and some guy friends also...so thats where my insecurity with her stems from. We've been having issues since that time and i know I wasn't being the best BF (was always insecure of where she was) and she claims she was "stressing over me treating her that way"and she heard of this reunion of old friends and her "friend" was the only one that could pick her up to get there . Its messed up cause i really do care for this chick and i didn't treat her right sometimes but I had my valid reasons (no trust). she claims she will tell dude tomorrow that she will cut ties with him but to me I don't think even that will make me forget it , since this is really the 2nd time she's been shady about things. I do not want a relationship where ill always be stressing and wondering if she's being real.
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Originally Posted by dapurplengold213
Originally Posted by Phen0m
..and youre still not thinking dude smashed your girlOriginally Posted by dapurplengold213
EXACTLY. she's over there saying "i didn't see it that way with him,for me its all friendship" "I now understand " Im like are you serious? I know if i was him id be in the back of my head wanting to smash any chance i could. How can you not see that something like that would make any man mad. She's crying calling me telling she's sorry and that for her it wasn't anything like that and for me to try to move on from it cause she loves me more than any other man. I have her Facebook password cause she gave it to me long ago and she deleted all the messages and posts, but I still can't get over that . she keeps saying "its not like i had sex with him" . all i hear is BLAH BLAH BLAH. Thinking about playing the nice guy role ,smashing a few more times then I'm out.
It can't be the same as it use to be for me. I could not look past that. and i don't see her the same.
i told her she stayed logged in on my tablet (guess she doesn't remember that she gave the password to me) and i confronted her about it and she deleted all the messages because "she cares more about me and he's just a friend." she claims that she will cut ties with him to win me back. I'm like ehhh. don't think i can get back with her the same way like it use to be.
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You has every reason not to trust her at this point but I think if she's willing to dead him for you that says a lot. %#$% won't be gravy the next day but if you know you haven't been the best to her and she hasn't to you it's not really one sided so there's room for. It's of you to forget the past and TRY to move past it. Not saying you should stay with her but t might be worth a try.
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it certainly does.
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At the end of the day..you gotta live in your shoes and look in the mirror..but it does sound as though you are making excuses for shortie giving off suspect vibes for the longest. She like mentally abused you with her actions and choices..yet you feel responsible?
Nonsense. Sounds to me like she is shady and immature..yet using your unease as a scapegoat to continue the unseemly behavior. Shortie either hasnt outgrown this behavior, doesnt respect you or just truly isnt ready to be tied down..yet wants to keep you around because you provide something..a sense of safety perhaps.ask your self if youre always the bearer of financial responsibilities..if youre constantly having to remind her of things she should be cognizant of.
Nonsense. Sounds to me like she is shady and immature..yet using your unease as a scapegoat to continue the unseemly behavior. Shortie either hasnt outgrown this behavior, doesnt respect you or just truly isnt ready to be tied down..yet wants to keep you around because you provide something..a sense of safety perhaps.ask your self if youre always the bearer of financial responsibilities..if youre constantly having to remind her of things she should be cognizant of.
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Originally Posted by Patrick Bateman
Chicks still say things like this? I don't see anything good coming out of this relationship and it's quite obvious she doesn't respect you.
Do yourself a favor...
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ALL THE FEMALES I CONSIDER OR CONSIDERED FRIENDS HAVE ALL BEEN DERAILED.....
except one who i barely contact cuz if i did she will be next...... on some GOLDBERG steez
except one who i barely contact cuz if i did she will be next...... on some GOLDBERG steez
