I agree to a certain extent. The issue for me is when people choose to make their stance on a person known when something like this comes up. It makes me think your point is more about taking a stance against the grain than anything else. In this era it sure feels like people just see that moment as an opportunity to take that strong contrarian stance mostly for the attention is garners.
That’s the only thing I could think of that would make you say you don’t care that someone died because they were homophonic.
And correct me if I’m wrong, but weren’t people basing that thought on just this:
Or did I miss some more examples? Never thought this was enough to call someone homophobic, personally.