NT Are You A Jerk? Or Do People Truly Hate You Because You're You?

Offset POW CLOW said:
Sometimes you just gotta keep your opinion to yourself
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I have one of those personalities that if I'm quiet, people get "testy", and I don't have a chill button when I feel threatened or disrespected. But again, you see how I would feel like Darth Vader right? Wasn't any need for him to say "Google Narcissism", that was a prejudice reply. Now if I got on some dark Anikin Skywalker **** and wiped out his whole family of Tuskens, I'd evil and a "jerk". This is how I feel about comments like that. Why? Why snipe me for no reason?
 
John Hancock said:
Why do you want to know if someone's insecure? What if they snap harder than you and it's not jokes anymore for you? Who is to blame?

It's like what's the point to begin with? Ya, know?
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Its part of the game if you can dish it out you gotta be able to take it in pause

& i wanna find out if they're insecure because insecure ppl tend to ruin the mood

Why bring other ppl down because you still have insecurities you havent been able to deal with
 
Offset POW CLOW said:
Sometimes you just gotta keep your opinion to yourself
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Narcissist can't. They're incapable of it because their Narcissim makes them truly believe that their opinion is fact. With that knowledge, they then assume that everyone would want them to share that knowledge. Why wouldn't you? Who wouldn't want to be educated by the all-knowing, almighty? There's nothing you can do but minimize or eliminate communication with someone like that.

Usually when people say things like "I'm just being honest..." or "People just don't like to hear the truth" it's a strong indication that the person is a narcissist. They form strong opinions, use those opinions and their criticisms to belittle others, and validate themselves by knowing they can **** up your day, even for just a minute. Like, they only feel like they exist if they can try to dump all their own depression and negativity onto someone else and watch that person react to it. They also like to hide behind the whole "People just don't appreciate my intelligence" BS.
 
Some dude that I work with told me

"When I met you, I thought you were the most stuck up person in the world, an a-hole and I wouldn't like you"

But like everyone else, when you actually talk to me and we vibe I'm a pretty chill dude :pimp:

Everyones said that to me, from my girl, to her family and pretty much everyone.

I come off as the typical NY a-hole but I'm a genuine person, just too blunt :lol:
 
This dude I work with said I was cutty from the wire..my mannersisms n the way I talk supposedly match him... I didn't watch the wire so Idk what means but he said it's a bad thing
 
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PanaRicanRetro said:
Narcissist can't. They're incapable of it because their Narcissim makes them truly believe that their opinion is fact. With that knowledge, they then assume that everyone would want them to share that knowledge. Why wouldn't you? Who wouldn't want to be educated by the all-knowing, almighty? There's nothing you can do but minimize or eliminate communication with someone like that.

Usually when people say things like "I'm just being honest..." or "People just don't like to hear the truth" it's a strong indication that the person is a narcissist. They form strong opinions, use those opinions and their criticisms to belittle others, and validate themselves by knowing they can **** up your day, even for just a minute. Like, they only feel like they exist if they can try to dump all their own depression and negativity onto someone else and watch that person react to it. They also like to hide behind the whole "People just don't appreciate my intelligence" BS.
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So NT, does this sound like me?
 
WhatCanISay said:
 
I say exactly what's on my mind and tell people exactly how I feel about them.

Sometimes they get offended, sometimes we become best of friends.

All of those times I'm still me
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At my job and at my school I'm a completely different person, though.
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same here...but I did check my supervisor at work for coming at me wrong..since then its been nothing but respect
 
I'm pretty chill and will lend a helping hand to anybody that's in need. But if you disrespect me, I will try to find a median. If I can't find that then I'm provoked and am liable to catch an assault charge.
 
I get a lot of hate at my job, because of my personality.

I'm a no non-sense person. If there are steps I can take to help you, I help you. If there aren't, I tell you so.

I'm also emotionless, as a matter of maintaining objectivity. Emotions cloud judgment, so I won't let them detract from rational decision-making. People construe this as a lack of empathy...which is not entirely true. Like I said, If I can help, I will.

Also, because I'm usually pressed for time, I'm fairly curt. Once again, people construe this as mean. Not true. If you wanna give me your number and chat all day when I'm not obligated to help a gazillion people: fine. However, while I'm on duty, please limit all recounting of tales and answers to my questions to pertinent details only: What and Who...I don't care for the why.
 
Had this conversation a few times with many different people. I've heard it all, but learned a lot about myself hearing what others think of me.

So far it's pretty consistent in what I hear. I come off as arrogant, cocky, an *******, walk like I'm better than everyone else, mysterious, hard to approach, womanizer.... ect.

But in return, when I allow people in my circle... It's im funny, intelligent, obnoxious, crazy, spontaneous... ect.

I don't allow a lot of my people in my circle because in all honesty, I could care less. I don't like most people. So I've almost embraced the character of being an arrogant *******.

And I'm perfectly fine with it. #shrugs
 
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Franco23x said:
Some dude that I work with told me

"When I met you, I thought you were the most stuck up person in the world, an a-hole and I wouldn't like you"

But like everyone else, when you actually talk to me and we vibe I'm a pretty chill dude :pimp:

Everyones said that to me, from my girl, to her family and pretty much everyone.

I come off as the typical NY a-hole but I'm a genuine person, just too blunt :lol:
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Re-read the thread.

This is me. I'm unapproachable because of the way I look, my demeanor, my posture.

But when I ALLOW people to get to know me. It's the total opposite!
 
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John Hancock said:
 
I'm sure NT knows "I'm indifferent", but I wasn't always that way. I used to be like a firework, sparkling as I reached for the sky, always smiling and outgoing. I am very intelligent, and not in a Dunning Kreuger type of way. But somewhere in my late 20's, people just started coming at my throat. "You think you're better", "You're not as smart as you think you are" etc. People will listen to what I have to say and pretend like they're not interested or I'm superfluous, then after I'm not around they've used the information I've given them or in some cases outright jack it. Why not just give me props? The sad part is my intelligence in on tap, I just like sharing it with the world. Why not treat me with the same respect I treat you? It's like people wait for the "perfect chance" to "defeat" me and it's completely unwarranted. I'm not making this up, people have told me "dude you have one of those personalities where people just don't like you because you're never wrong".

I don't want to be a jerk, I don't want to always come off like Downey's version of Tony Stark. I don't want to be hated. Do I have to be a jerk? Or do people have to change their hating ways? I feel like I've been at that point where I don't care what people think of me, either love me or leave me alone.

NT are any of you jerks? Or do people just hate you because you're you?
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No offense, but your opening post made me feel like you think your better than people.
 
John Hancock said:
 
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...but seriously, I see people just "clique" all the time. Like "instant bros", "instant homies" and I'm like 
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But with me it's usually a long process, I have friends that I've had for 25 years and we hardly speak anymore and we grew up like brothers, but then I have friends I've only known for 10 years and we're like brothers and speak all the time. My last homie to join the clique was 8 years ago, and we were instant bros. But people usually approach me like I'm Leonidas, not sure how to proceed. I usually turn out to be the life of the part, honestly, and then they'd hit me with "man, I had you all wrong". Or sometimes it's just "I hate that *****, I don't know, I just hate him, I can't find anything specifically about him but I just hate...he has to be stopped"

I've been told that my judge of character is borderline extrasensory, it makes people uncomfortable that I can see right through them but never judge them or take advantage of them. It's like they feel guilty that I'm not a piece of **** and hate me for my humility. It's truly angering. Some days I just want to unleash, and come through like Darth Vader crushing people before they have a change to hurt me. I don't want to be a jerk, but some days I am.

I've made three people cry last weak with precision honesty and it changed them forever. But I just smelled their ******** from a mile away and it was offensive. I anticipated the outcome and just said **** it, let me deal with this off rip. 
 
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That statement alone shows a superior complex that you probably. Not cool bruh
 
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