Giving a Wedding gift?

At the end of the day it's all about pride.. like if you had a wedding would you want some giving you 10-20 bucks? That's how I treat it when going to a wedding like how much is acceptable.... I went to my friends wedding in hawaiii which cost me a fortune to attend but I didn't mind because I never been to Hawaii. I still gave my friend like 150 for a gift though
 
To dude saying it's nitpicking
Hopefully it wasn't to me lol

Definitely wasn't nitpicking
But it's kinda unacceptable man
I wouldn't even feel comfortable giving that low

Like I see some people mentioning the $20
Again the amount of cards to people was way off; meaning people literally didn't get a .99 card and say "hey thinking bout you, congratulations, God bless, best of luck" there's no excuse for that at all. And it's not about the money at all. I knew I wouldn't see the full amount back nor half, but no cards. I wasn't looking for that, but the amount back was crazy. And again, there were $5 and $10 cards; I could barely get a nice meal with that and you just ate and drank greatly lol

And these are from people with careers, all with jobs, "sneaker heads", people with there own businesses, etc
No excuse

And people saying I forgot, or got you later... 6 months later nothing; but on social media stunting lol

Some people talking crazy nonsense or whatever to get repped lol

And my wedding was local
Less than 6 people had to get on a plane.
Less than 35 used a hotel because it was that close to we everyone was from lol
No excuse
 
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At a bare minimal you should at least gif what it cost per plate and ranges from 75-200$. I'd say if you're having to calculate your money just to make to the wedding, just don't go and mail the gift card. 
 
Sounds like some of you should have sold tickets to your wedding instead of inviting people. Or at the very least put a dollar amount next to the reception details. You invite people to your wedding so they can celebrate with you -not so they can cover the cost of your party. :smh:
 
i mean the guests didn't choose your venue or how much to spend on the meals. it's not a transaction. just enjoy it and be merry.
 
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DownyBoy said:
Sounds like some of you should have sold tickets to your wedding instead of inviting people. Or at the very least put a dollar amount next to the reception details. You invite people to your wedding so they can celebrate with you -not so they can cover the cost of your party. :smh:
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I'm gonna bet money you don't tip when you eat out :lol:

They are throwing a party for y'all to enjoy and celebrate with them, they are feeding you, food that costs lots of money per plate depending on venue and an open bar, the least you can do is show them love with some money....some of you NTers stay trying to deflect to cover up your cheap ways....ya need to stop the lameness, do ya show up to your boys crib for a get together empty handed too and drink up all their beers? Or do ya have the decency to at least come through with a bag of chips and dip? Lord...where the **** is your social etiquette? Bunch of weirdos.
 
whywesteppin said:
i mean the guests didn't choose your venue or how much to spend on the meals. it's not a transaction. just enjoy it and be merry.
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They didn't, some venues charge upwards of 200$ per plate just for the food and another lump fee for the open bar, 150$ for most spots BARELY cover what they are spending to have you there....but is the least you can throw in a card to not look like absolute lame.
 
ksteezy said:
DownyBoy said:
Sounds like some of you should have sold tickets to your wedding instead of inviting people. Or at the very least put a dollar amount next to the reception details. You invite people to your wedding so they can celebrate with you -not so they can cover the cost of your party. :smh:
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I'm gonna bet money you don't tip when you eat out :lol:

They are throwing a party for y'all to enjoy and celebrate with them, they are feeding you, food that costs lots of money per plate depending on venue and an open bar, the least you can do is show them love with some money....some of you NTers stay trying to deflect to cover up your cheap ways....ya need to stop the lameness, do ya show up to your boys crib for a get together empty handed too and drink up all their beers? Or do ya have the decency to at least come through with a bag of chips and dip? Lord...where the **** is your social etiquette? Bunch of weirdos.
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I tip just fine. And have plenty of people over at my place without expecting anyone to bring a thing. Feel free to make assumptions to make you feel better though.

You're the one talking about social etiquette yet trying to get money out of your friends and family for a party you decided to throw... No one made you have a wedding, no one asked you to spend money on them for your celebration. You invite people because you want them to be there, not so they can pay for their plate and drinks. At that point you're no different than a club promoter, not a bride and groom.
 
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Word ksteezy lol

Dudes are missing the point
No was expecting money
But if you are gonna give, why give so low?!

I don't eat go to people's houses empty handed when I'm coming over to watch a game or play NBA 2k
So think coming empty handed on the biggest day of someone's life is acceptable? Especially when they are feeding you and you drink at the bar, top shelf stuff?? Come on lol

Left with snack bags & prizes lol
Miss with that bro
 
DownyBoy said:
I tip just fine. And have plenty of people over at my place without expecting anyone to bring a thing. Feel free to make assumptions to make you feel better though.

You're the one talking about social etiquette yet trying to get money out of your friends and family for a party you decided to throw... No one made you have a wedding, no one asked you to spend money on them for your celebration. You invite people because you want them to be there, not so they can pay for their plate and drinks. At that point you're no different than a club promoter, not a bride and groom.
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You are missing the point, yes no one is forcing you to invite anyone and no one is gonna stop talking to a person simply because they didn't gift you anything at your wedding, but that **** is socially unacceptable and just makes the guest look bad....no bride/groom is putting a gun to any of their guests heads taking their money, but cmon fam if I can pay 600$ for you and your +1 I may not even know to come and be a part of a special day, have a blast, eat and drink you can't dig into your own pockets and feel good about gifting the bride/groom at least half of what they spent on you already?...that **** only reflects on what type of person you are.
 
It's not about paying for drinks and food
It's just the right thing to do
Drinks and food including, you consumed $200+ easily... how do you feel comfortable giving $5?!?! You can't get a McDonald's meal for $5 bro. Stop it.

And some people literally came empty handed; meaning just themselves, no gift, NO CARD.
Not to mention, some begged for a plus one, so them or their guest gave a gift lol that's

Come on man lol

You trolling.
 
Preach ksteezy!

Cause it was hella people begging for a +1
People I didn't know or people that I knew the relationship wouldn't last, so we said it the relationship wasn't longer than a year; you can't have them come

I like two people bend the rule; both gave under $25; one was no gift, no card
 
i agree with you guys. guests should be decent enough to give a decent gift. but not because it'll pay off their seat at the table. that's all I'm saying. to me that is the wrong attitude.
 
NotoriousMJ23 said:
Word ksteezy lol

Dudes are missing the point
No was expecting money
But if you are gonna give, why give so low?!

I don't eat go to people's houses empty handed when I'm coming over to watch a game or play NBA 2k
So think coming empty handed on the biggest day of someone's life is acceptable? Especially when they are feeding you and you drink at the bar, top shelf stuff?? Come on lol

Left with snack bags & prizes lol
Miss with that bro
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I'm a wedding photographer and I've been married 7 years, I take it some of these guys just don't know any better....honestly if you are just gonna pull out a linty 20$ from your pockets and shove it in an envelop, don't give me anything at all, I can't remember which guests didn't gift, but I sure as hell remember the one cat that legit put 40.75$ into an envelop with his name on it.
 
whywesteppin said:
i agree with you guys. guests should be decent enough to give a decent gift. but not because it'll pay off their seat at the table. that's all I'm saying. to me that is the wrong attitude.
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I mean that may be the wrong way to word it, but is a good way to justify stripping yourself off 150$ if the idea that this is a good thing to gift your friends as they start a life together isn't enough for you, just think of it as you paying for a front row seat with food and drinks included to witness their union.
 
You guys mentioning the cards with no money or only $5-10, the checks that aren't good because there's no money in those people's accounts have me the most surprised. Why the eff are people giving checks that are useless?
 
My wife is Vietnamese and let's just say her family gave us 1000-5000 dollar envelopes, gotta love Asians lol
 
whywesteppin said:
i agree with you guys. guests should be decent enough to give a decent gift. but not because it'll pay off their seat at the table. that's all I'm saying. to me that is the wrong attitude.
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word.

dudes keep saying it's not about the money yet continue to bring up the price per head.
 
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Shogun... when we called and asked what happened, we got hit with excuses man. "Oh I thought it came out" and other stuff

and we bringing up per head cause IF nothing else, you wanna pay for your plate.

Just think, when you go out to eat with a group of group, let's say 10+. And your meal was $24.99, are you gonna give exactly $24.99 or under?! I hope not. You wanna cover tax and some tip, maybe help the next man out, whatever... don't just do bare minimum or under.

Or if you go out and ya man/fam treats you to dinner, at least hold the tip down man.

If you go fine dining/drinking and partying and think $5 in a card is acceptable; then the problem starts there man, that's just bad
 
wait, you called people and asked why their checks didn't clear? bruh :lol:
 
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NotoriousMJ23 said:
Shogun... when we called and asked what happened, we got hit with excuses man. "Oh I thought it came out" and other stuff

and we bringing up per head cause IF nothing else, you wanna pay for your plate.

Just think, when you go out to eat with a group of group, let's say 10+. And your meal was $24.99, are you gonna give exactly $24.99 or under?! I hope not. You wanna cover tax and some tip, maybe help the next man out, whatever... don't just do bare minimum or under.

Or if you go out and ya man/fam treats you to dinner, at least hold the tip down man.

If you go fine dining/drinking and partying and think $5 in a card is acceptable; then the problem starts there man, that's just bad
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If there's anything I've learned on here, an NT'er would just drop $20 and give a "kanye shrug". Then go home and start a thread asking who else does that?
 
I was thinking about this question the other day too. One of my friends is getting married in June, but I'm in the wedding party.
 
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Lolol
Yeah
Typical NT man
Like there's no way this should be turned on me lol
How does anyone feel comfortable giving $0 at a wedding lol

No they didn't ask for us to get married, or pick the venue
But they check yes to the rsvp
That's enough
 
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