Originally Posted by BK201
Example: Kid blatantly takes candy from store and eats it. Kid gets spanked. Kid learns how to steal candy without getting caught.
Kid takes candy. Parent explains why that is not okay. Kid learns that stealing is wrong. Later applies that to things later on in life.
So the parent that spanks their child nonchalantly omits justifying the punishment received?
Ok.
Bad example on my part since I left that out. But in situations where my dad beat me and then would try to talk to me about why he did it I was still mad and
my mouth was still bleeding so I'd negate whatever he tried to say to me because I was mad at the time so I'm not gonna listen to you if I'm mad.
Oh it hurts you more than it hurts me?
spanking and beating the *++# out of someone are 2 different things in my book. I understand your point and now see where you are coming from. I will still spank my children, though. I won't beat them in the face or humiliate them publicly even infront of their closest relatives (not saying yours did OP but when blood is spilled it is def OD). Just do the ol' bend them over and spank them, not too hard or too soft, I just want the physicalness of the reprimand to stay with them even if its not painful. Ill let them know calmly what they did wrong and from that moment on forgive them and let them be. No hard feelings will be had, and this will start when they are young so they learn how to fear the consequences of what is wrong.
Like trying to stop or ease the troublemaking little by little before it gets to the point where they begin to steal or do something more serious.
Just a broad perspective