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Everything you need to tell him you already wrote on pg 1. You sound like a good guy, he shouldn't get upset over feelings not being mutual. That's childish.
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didnt readMan...I got the shock of my life last night
One of my best friends last night not only confessed that he liked men as well as women, but that he also had feelings for me since college
Look, I've had and still have other gay friends and female friends, but this is completely different cause dude was like a brother to me. Him being bisexual/gay/whatever isn't what changed how I thought of him (it wasn't even a shock really, cause dude always had some feminine tendencies and interests), but the whole idea of someone I considered to be family confessing his real feelings towards me...
I really don't know what to do. I'm not angry or digusted; I'm sad because I feel like a good friendship that I had is gone now. He said "I don't expect you to feel the same since I know you're straight. But I just had to let it out because I don't want to hold on to this anymore. We've gone through some @#$% before and we're still cool today, and I hope we can still be cool even after this, but I understand if you don't want to be friends anymore."
I don't believe it's that easy to just forget it and move on with the friendship like nothing happened. To me, something like that only happens on TV. I've had female friends confess their feelings for me before, and even though we're on good terms today, it's just not the same as before. No serious conversations, no making plans to kick it, only talk when we're at the same party or via FB/IG posts, etc. They basically became acquaintances instead of friends, but like I said, I never minded much cause I wasn't THAT close to them.
So what do you guys suggest I do/say? I know a bunch of idiots will come in here and say ":x" "pepper your angus" and all that other 12 year old BS, but I know there's some mature dudes on here who can give good advice.
And yes, I'm posting this on NT instead of talking to my other friends about it, because they're all cool with him too, and I don't want to stir up any potential drama especially since I'm the only one he told this to.
Looks like this guy is more than willing to take care of your problem.didnt readMan...I got the shock of my life last night
One of my best friends last night not only confessed that he liked men as well as women, but that he also had feelings for me since college
Look, I've had and still have other gay friends and female friends, but this is completely different cause dude was like a brother to me. Him being bisexual/gay/whatever isn't what changed how I thought of him (it wasn't even a shock really, cause dude always had some feminine tendencies and interests), but the whole idea of someone I considered to be family confessing his real feelings towards me...
I really don't know what to do. I'm not angry or digusted; I'm sad because I feel like a good friendship that I had is gone now. He said "I don't expect you to feel the same since I know you're straight. But I just had to let it out because I don't want to hold on to this anymore. We've gone through some @#$% before and we're still cool today, and I hope we can still be cool even after this, but I understand if you don't want to be friends anymore."
I don't believe it's that easy to just forget it and move on with the friendship like nothing happened. To me, something like that only happens on TV. I've had female friends confess their feelings for me before, and even though we're on good terms today, it's just not the same as before. No serious conversations, no making plans to kick it, only talk when we're at the same party or via FB/IG posts, etc. They basically became acquaintances instead of friends, but like I said, I never minded much cause I wasn't THAT close to them.
So what do you guys suggest I do/say? I know a bunch of idiots will come in here and say ":x" "pepper your angus" and all that other 12 year old BS, but I know there's some mature dudes on here who can give good advice.
And yes, I'm posting this on NT instead of talking to my other friends about it, because they're all cool with him too, and I don't want to stir up any potential drama especially since I'm the only one he told this to.
i see u stay in sf though
just send her to me so i can knock em down
she aint gonna be worrying about u anymore fam
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i see u stay in sf though
just send her to me so i can knock em down
she aint gonna be worrying about u anymore fam
Just ask him if he think you guys can still be friends or would it be too uncomfortable for him. Regardless of what he says you can just leave it at that. I still don't understand why he just didn't keep it to himself unless he was interpreting your feelings for him differently.Yea that's what I told him yesterday. "I want us to still be friends but at the same time I can't pretend like this never happened. I don't think of you negatively at all, but you're basically my brother and you're saying this. It's a shock to me and it changes @#$% even though I don't want it to." And he said "you made your point clear, I understand" and I haven't talked to him since.
I don't want to just leave it at that, but I don't know what else to say either.
seems like you're confused but it's simple, really.
have sex with a girl.
have sex with your friend.
then compare.