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Originally Posted by thegoat121886
This is pretty recent and just came to a head yesterday...figured i'd share
OK so my best friend of 15 years (we're 25 now) and I hooked up on my birthday this past december. We've always had this weird atraction thing that we explored but never went all the way with up until that day. nothing was weird about it and we talked about it after and agreed that we'd take things to the next level and date exclusively. Everything was good. Around this time she had moved into a new apartment with very little money saved, a car note and only a part time job. So i broke her off with money when she needed it, helped fix up the apartment like painting, furniture arrangements, mounting TVs, cooking her dinner, etc. Pretty much doing all the stuff i would normally do as her best friend anyway, but going the "extra mile" just to show that i care and all that. At the beginning of February she picks up a second job that makes her week completely filled with work all 7 days, which makes her not as available to hang out or go out like we were before. I would plan things with her weeks in advance so she could clear her schedule but she keeps being unavailable. I work nights 6 days a week so im already being pretty accommodating as it is, but i didnt sweat it. I understood she was probably burned out/tired from work and all that everyday. what ends up happening is me not seeing her for an entire month EXCEPT when she needs me to drop off tools/supplies for her apartment, the night before valentines day when i dropped off a care package i spent all day putting together (valentines day themed foods that she liked, a gift card to her nail salon, etc), and the one night at the end of the month when i took her out to dinner before i went to work. At this dinner she expresses to me how she doesnt think i give her enough timeand that she needs attention and somebody who she thinks is really in for her if we're gonna work. In my head im like "++%are you kidding me?" but i didnt address it...just sat back and listened to all this bs. on the ride back to me drop her off before work she has me stay and comfort her or whatever so i did it like a +#$@%+#, but because i wanted to go above and beyond to prove her wrong still. That night she sneds me a thank you text and apologizes for doubting me at all so im like
ALSO around this time, she was getting flowers delivered to her office at work from some suitors. she was posting them up on her social networks but when she told me about it was like "oh i dont like these guys anyway...dont mind it" i was also jailbreaking her iphone for her and while i was doing that, came across incoming texts from this dude which were pretty flirty. didnt say anything about it though.
After that night of dinner, i dont see her for the entire month of March, and not for lack of trying. I would hit her up and say let's go somewhere and she'd be like "oh im tired" or "oh i just got off work" she invited me to go see The Hunger Games after i expressed to her i wanted to see it, but she flaked on it every day of that week for various reasons. Even with all that i excused it because she apparently was tired with working 2 jobs and having no days off. I completely ignored the fact that she was checking in at random restaurants after some days of work every week. "Must be some coworkers or other friends" i said to myself
Fast foward to this past friday I'm derping around on FB and i see this post from her talmbout "Our First Date " Now, im not a rocket scientist but i know i was at home at that point and definitely not on any date. Had me looking at my phone likein that order. Ended up not hitting her up at all the entire weekend until yesterday. Broke her off with some funny story, hopefully to have a conversation segue into what was going on but nope..got a laugh and that was it.
So i go to work and on twitter and i see a pic she posted, and part of the caption was this dude's name. I recgonize it right away but i couldnt remember where i had seen that name from. So for like 20 minutes at work im at my desk trying to piece together where i know this name from and it hits me like Wee-bay
I know the name because thats the dude that was texting her all slick and flirty that night in February. that's the name of the dude that was sending her flowers at work. All of a sudden everything is coming together. I'm not even known to be an emotional dude or really care about a girl like that but man did that revelation hurt. Today is the day after the fact and i have yet to address her or even think about how im going to do this. I have to play it delicately because she doesnt know i know all of this, or doesnt care...idk. That and i dont want to come off as jealous because she didnt choose me. I'm just disappointed in the fact that ive been playing other girls who i know were down for me while chasing her, and the fact that she lied to me and had me under the guise that we were exclusive.
TL;DR: I got played by my best friend
Damn man, read that and that's foul.. I swear the whole guys & girls being best friends thing rarely, if ever works out.. Once you start feeling them, they know they got you hooked. break it off a$ap