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Originally Posted by doosta45
never leave the person you love for the person you like, because the person you like will leave you for the person they love
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Originally Posted by doosta45
never leave the person you love for the person you like, because the person you like will leave you for the person they love
Originally Posted by bonafide hustla
Originally Posted by doosta45
never leave the person you love for the person you like, because the person you like will leave you for the person they lovewas this supposed to be helpful advice for the OP or u just droppin quotes
it applies to his girl maybe, but not him. thats not advice for him because thats clearly what he's seeing unfold before his eyes and thatquote is obviously what he's saying is messed up bout his chick. and if this is advice for him not to leave the "one he loves" that quote isirrelevant because this chick clearly cheated on him whilst raising his childOriginally Posted by kix4kix
Originally Posted by bonafide hustla
Originally Posted by doosta45
never leave the person you love for the person you like, because the person you like will leave you for the person they lovewas this supposed to be helpful advice for the OP or u just droppin quotes
What are you talking about? It applies perfectly.
for all of you saying get custody of your son... thats such an uphill battle its not funny.
basically, i would LOVE to get custody of my son but in all honesty shes a really good mom, so its gonna be atough one....
Prowler 23 wrote:
It is a very touchy situation because there is a seed involved , but if she was selfish enough to do this to you already once, trust me she'll do it again ( from personal experience, 2 different females ). You always have to keep in mind that you'll never be able to trust her again. Lets look at it how it really happen , Shes throwing away a 5 year relationship and sacrificed the relationship between you and your seed for a little puppy love, with a Guy with a pending Gun charge , ... Shes gonna bring this around your Child ????
Notice how you Dropped her completely and she came running back , not to get back together but in her mind subconciously she was thinking , why isnt he going crazy over me? attention *!$!# much ?
Females are like cats , you chase em and they run away , but what happens when you dont pay attention to the cat?
Man theres alot of fish in the Sea , and you can always keep a good standing relationship with your child, but quite frankly dont put your happiness 2nd to hers.
very,very,very nice advice.... i mean i know exactly what you mean. likethe past week i wasnt reallyy thinkin much about her, i would only call her to pick up my son or what not, wouldnt ask her anything about her or her new littletoy..she would basically try and sneak little stuff in like "oh ok well ill be by tomorrow to pick up my son, im sure my boyfriend wont have a problemwith it", just little stuff like that, i would just shrug it off.
just that damn phone call last night really threw me off...the man part of me is just like "damn son you really gotta man the hell up and just forgetabout this broad"....i cant really avoid her because obviously theres a seed involved...but as most said, at least i have my baby boy, and i just gottamove on, both for him and me...
Thanks for making this post Cansec0 this advise is helping me out too.
i knew there had to be someone on this damn board that was feelin my pain...
Originally Posted by ISRAEL5EKLA
this sounds pretty horrible but i will say when you're in a relationship for a long time you start to miss that brand new relationship feeling and thats what i think happened to your ex. sometimes there are people who are strong enough to know that what they have at home is more valuable than that brand new feeling and sometimes people aren't. i think youre girl is the latter and she was giving you excuses to give herself space to do her. now this may be going against the popular opinion of niketalk thats gonna tell you to move on but im gonna tell you that people make mistakes and that shes young and so are you and you have been together for a very long time. people youre age are JUST NOW getting into serious adult relationships. im not gonna say what she did is right but i will say i understand and that maybe you should sit down and try to have an adult conversation and try to figure out what made her even want to throw out 5 years and her child's father over some new dude figure out where you stand and if it can be salvaged then go from there.
i was somehwhat thinkin the same thing...but ehhhh man i dont know...you just dontdo that to someone you supposedly LOVE...
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Originally Posted by kb8 3qwick
I have a question for the people who said that they have experienced similar situations. I know it probably differs for everybody, but did it take you guys a long time to completely get over the person?
basically, i would LOVE to get custody of my son but in all honesty shes a really good mom, so its gonna be a tough one....Originally Posted by jose cansec0
for all of you saying get custody of your son... thats such an uphill battle its not funny.
Prowler 23 wrote:
It is a very touchy situation because there is a seed involved , but if she was selfish enough to do this to you already once, trust me she'll do it again ( from personal experience, 2 different females ). You always have to keep in mind that you'll never be able to trust her again. Lets look at it how it really happen , Shes throwing away a 5 year relationship and sacrificed the relationship between you and your seed for a little puppy love, with a Guy with a pending Gun charge , ... Shes gonna bring this around your Child ????
Notice how you Dropped her completely and she came running back , not to get back together but in her mind subconciously she was thinking , why isnt he going crazy over me? attention *!$!# much ?
Females are like cats , you chase em and they run away , but what happens when you dont pay attention to the cat?
Man theres alot of fish in the Sea , and you can always keep a good standing relationship with your child, but quite frankly dont put your happiness 2nd to hers.
very,very,very nice advice.... i mean i know exactly what you mean. like the past week i wasnt reallyy thinkin much about her, i would only call her to pick up my son or what not, wouldnt ask her anything about her or her new little toy..she would basically try and sneak little stuff in like "oh ok well ill be by tomorrow to pick up my son, im sure my boyfriend wont have a problem with it", just little stuff like that, i would just shrug it off.
just that damn phone call last night really threw me off...the man part of me is just like "damn son you really gotta man the hell up and just forget about this broad"....i cant really avoid her because obviously theres a seed involved...but as most said, at least i have my baby boy, and i just gotta move on, both for him and me...
Its gonna take a little while to get over her , but you will .... having a good support system is great too , LikeClose friends , and males in your family . Just dont give her the satifaction knowing that you actually care. Keep her guessing. But always be there for yourchild.
Originally Posted by loonyrobert
Get custody of your son and forget her. Did it once, she'll do it again.
I didnt write that but I agree with it thats why I quoted it.Originally Posted by ISRAEL5EKLA
who ever wrote all that up there is dumb as rocks. Ole girl straight up dropped him because she had a new dude waitin for her. She threw away a 5 year relationship because of some new guy she was interested in, & you tellin him that he should get back with her. There is nothing to salvage, she just doesnt respect him or the fact that they have a child together.
If you follow the advice i quoted than i guarantee that the broad will do the same thing over & over again. Just dead all contact with her now so you can avoid all this nonsense later
Originally Posted by ISRAEL5EKLA
To me, you sound like a quitter.
I know exactly how you feel. My ex, I was with him for 5 and a half years, and he was my first everything. I found out last August through his mistress that he was cheating on me with her for a year and a half. That day, the world was pulled under my feet, and I was depressed the following weeks. I would not eat, and I lost a bit of weight. He wanted to get back with me, but I refused. I think I am finally cutting him out for good. The ultimate betrayal, the lies, the deceit...I just could not believe the man I saw as my partner, my best friend, my other half, could do something so selfish, so cunning, so evil. I am doing a lot better. I am over him, but not completely over the situation, but that will come in no time.
My advice would be that for now you need space from her. Right now, the wound is still very fresh. If you keep being involved with her in deeper ways, that wound will not heal. You will keep bringing it unto yourself to being so hung up on her. The more space from her, the more you will be able to heal and get over her. I know it will be hard since you have a son with her. But try to avoid her as much as you can, and talk to her just for purposes having to do with your son. Please take care of yourself and your son. You seem as being very mature about all this and have a good head on your shoulders. You kept your loyalty, your commitment, and did your part in it all. Instead, what does she do?She betrays you and stabs you in the back in one of the most demoralizing ways that she can. Some couple do get back together after infidelity, and everything is rosy again and it all works out. So that option is still there for you, but think about it all real hard...Can you ever trust her again? Can you ever kiss her, not thinking about the way she kissed him? Can you be intimate with her not thinking about how she was intimate with him? The lies, the deceit..everything. Is she worth it?Some couples try to work it out and it just does not work out at all because one partner just cannot get over the distrust and infidelity. How can you have a relationship with no trust? Trust is the foundation of a relationship. Trust me, it will be hard, very very very hard. But you will overcome it and only become a stronger and better person out of all this. You have to sacrifice the pain for now where eventually she will not control your emotions anymore and you will be over her and what she did. Forgive in the sense that you have no more anger in you anymore or sadness over what happened, so this way she cannot control your feelings as I said. This will also take a lot of time. But, never forget. Just stick it out, those better days will come. Keep your head up.
What's the real reason she came back tho? Is it because the other dude aint feeling her anymore?
i doubt its cuz dude aint feelin her anymore, he's on thirst mode with her, talkin bout he wants to settledown and move in with her...smh
who knows why she came back? she probably still wants to have me there while she tries out this other guy but im not havin that.