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Well in my case my sister was older, also it was partly my fault. But in your case, it seems like it's mainly her? If that's the case and there's genuinely nothing you are doing to subtly annoy her or anything, then it just means she has a problem and you need to give her her space to figure her **** out.She couldnt really be jealous of my situation or how our parents treat me vs how they treat her. At the time we were both in school, in fact the same university. Our parents treat us pretty much the same as well.I don't have siblings but it sounds like there are some deeper issues. One comment like that shouldn't create that much distance. How is she doing in life? Maybe she's jealous of you if you're doing well. Our maybe she feels like your parents like you better.
Im not the only one she has problems with though. Her and my mother always get in to an argument and will often stop speaking for awhile, her 3 roommates/teammates stopped talking to her after the first semester, she was close friends with 2 other girls from the team that lived in another dorm but by the end of the year they stopped speaking, same story with numerous friends from highschool.
tbh OP, I recently just got over a looong beef I was having with my sister and let me tell you, there's no way you can succeed in life if you can't get things right with your fam. Me and my sister aren't alike at ALL, but at the end of the day I just told myself you know what, that's my sister and she's the only sister I have in the world. I can have issues with other random girls I meet outside, but my sister who I grew up with and is an integral part of my human experience on this earth? Nahh.. nothing is worth not maintaining that relationship.
I definitely feel you on that and that's why I tried to remain brother and sister. But it's like you say the same negative thing over and over, and I forgave you countless times before. But then to say something like that without me even saying ANYTHING negative towards her and then not apologize or anything. Im not sure what else there is to do besides wish the best for her and hope she grows up.
You said that you guys were cool until she was 15. That means that she has 15 years of positive memories with you, there's no way she doesn't care about you deep down. Most likely she's going through an identity crisis and has some crazy insecurities that prevent her from feeling close to people or fostering positive relationships. Obviously she has some problems that she needs to work through. Eventually she will realize that pushing people away gets you nowhere in life, but you have to let her realize that on her own. My dad is kind of like that, dude is kind of a coldhearted ahole and ruined a lot of aspects of my childhood, but after a while I just accepted the fact that he has a problem and stopped letting him get to me.
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